believing in your own gravity

 

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“She believed in her own gravity, and she never considered escaping it.

 The world isn’t improved by reading the personal tragedy that unfolded afterwards, but there’s also no fighting it—the power that lies in hearing her words is in the totality of its acceptance.”

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Spencer Kornhaber

<slightly edited quote>

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“As long as I know what I’ve done, I’m not gonna worry about what other people say or think I did.”

because only I know the truth

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Well … believed in her own gravity, and she never considered escaping gravity-is-in-my-bonesit may be one of the strongest lines I have read. Why? No matter what anyone says:

 

Understanding yourself, who and what you are, is difficult.

Accepting yourself, who and what you are, is difficult.

Both of which, inevitably, makes believing in yourself extremely difficult.

Accepting less than perfection or accepting the fact you have imperfections is difficult.

Knowing you have flaws, even some destructive flaws, is difficult.

Both of which, inevitably, makes believing in yourself extremely difficult.

If you bundle all of those up, well, that is your gravity.

Now. For some reasons, some good and some bad, we always seem to want to fix or change our gravity <which seems … well … as I type that … kind of impossible and somewhat silly objective>.

Some people dislike their gravity and fight it, try and escape it, and some even suggest they want to “fly” as a version of showing their dislike for their own gravity.

To be clear <part 1>.

This gravity discussion is different than a “come to the edge and fly” Life discussion <that is about risk and trying to see what you are capable of>. This gravity discussion is about who and what you are. The things, good & bad, that  ground you day in and day out as part of what makes you … well … you.fear-of-gravity-fall

To be clear <part 2>.

Gravity can be defied.

Well. Let’s just say that you can learn to jump, fly or elevate <but you will inevitably get pulled back at some point>. So you can defy your gravity for moments in time.

All that said, gravity is, well, gravity. In other words, it remains no matter what else may happen as part of Life. Now. While everyone faces gravity, your version of gravity is different than someone else’s.

You may like someone else’s gravity more than your own. Shit. You may dislike gravity in general. It doesn’t really matter. You either believe in your own gravity or you end up fighting gravity your entire Life.

And that is where that opening quote is so powerful — such a strong Life idea. If you believe in your gravity, flaws and destructive qualities included, and do not try and escape it — you use what you have to the best of your ability rather than fight it.

You believe in your gravity, the good and bad, as part of what can create some space in the world for you and no one else.

genaertional attitudes powerlessYou believe in your gravity, and understand it, and accept it, and believe it is what inevitably guides your feet down some path in Life.

By the way, this does not mean you are unapologetically comfortable with yourself, you may actually even find yourself slightly uncomfortable with your gravity, you just accept it and believe it inevitably makes you who you are.

And, in the end, I imagine if you do not try and escape your gravity you stop looking at other’s gravity, you stop listening to people telling you to try and change your gravity and, well, you decide to use your gravity to become the hero in your own story.

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She needed a hero so she became one.

Unknown

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