Let me say this about Trump … because of this asshat I have had to have more conversations about guys, what we do and what we say, and don’t say, and why we do the things we do, or don’t do, then I have in years.
On October 9th I had to walk through what guys really don’t say in a locker room.
And what guys do say <and they don’t say any of the shit that Trump senior & junior imply we do>.
Today I felt the need to define the difference between a serial philanderer and a serial creep.
The Trump campaign is gonna do their damndest to blur the distinction the best they can.
Ignore the blurring.
I am gonna make it simple.
A father, husband, or any adult man knows the one guy you don’t trust around your wife, girlfriend/partner or … well … any woman. They are on constant low level “flirt status’ trolling for anyone who expresses even one iota of interest.
They are the ‘dogs’ who just want to sleep with any woman they can.
That guy is a serial philanderer.
A father, husband, or any adult man knows the one guy you don’t trust around your daughter.
That guy is a serial creep.
That was, and is, simple.
There is going to be a bunch of crap being thrown around to blur the discussion and to attempt to create some random equivalencies in order to attach Hillary to Bill <and inevitably> to Trump on this issue.
As Trump would say … “disaster” of a plan. ‘Poor judgement.’
A wife is a victim of a husband’s infidelity. Period.
A woman, all women, are victims of a creep. Period.
He has faced allegations of which none have been proven in court <and the women , I believe, have had their day in court>. He had sex with a consenting adult <that is infidelity and not a crime>. So I guess in 2016 lens he would be viewed as a serial philanderer. But I also don’t remember him ever using the words Trump does nor do I ever remember him treating women in general as Trump does. Nor … which everyone seems to forget … do I remember Bill showing the overall pattern of disdain for people beyond women.
Adultery is adultery. On that issue both Trump and Bill were adulterers and philanderers.
Not a crime. Just a moral crime.
Trump. Here is Trump’s problem. He has been a bragging hyperbole driven lying asshole throughout this entire campaign. For the most part … everyone knows that he exaggerates everything. But. When you listen to the bus “grab & touch anyone I want” tape. And listen to what he says. And you combine it with everything else you have seen and heard … well … you sit back and go … whoa … that’s not exaggeration or sexist stupidity … I believe he actually does, and did, that.
Bill didn’t paw at women. He slept with them as an adulterer.
Trump not only was an adulterer but he took advantage of his position to touch, kiss and non consensually paw at women <while verbally demeaning them>.
That makes him a creep.
I don’t think she can say this <because she would be crucified> but I think she would say thru a 2016 culture lens she would have acted differently back in whatever year that was. We view sexual assault <as well as many things culturally> differently now versus then <thankfully I may add>.
But that is a guess.
What I do know is that it is only hearsay that she did anything to the women. She stood by her husband as her husband lied to her. She stopped standing by her husband <speaking out against allegations against her husband> after he told her the truth. That’s kind of what wives do.
They are the last ones to know, the last ones to believe and the last ones left out there feeling & looking stupid. And that is why trying to tie her to her husband’s infidelity is a losing strategy. Women know that.
And to suggest she is an “enabler”? geez. That suggests she was the Madam for Bill’s whorehouse. On so many levels, mostly by simply viewing Hillary through a brainiac thought leader lens, that seems incredibly unlikely.
The biggest problem for Trump continues to be actually his biggest most effective strategy.
As he did in the debate the other night he tried to diminish his sexist asshatedness by … well … comparing it to ISIS. Well, yes, he looks good in that equivalence.
What he does is to suggest that “well, he did it too” as an equivalence. That may work in 2nd grade but in the adult world individuals are responsible for their actions.
The last thing he, and his rabid surrogates, are masters at is ‘isolating an incident’ to create equivalence. He treats each asshat incident as a solitary event and finds an equivalence to diminish its importance <or heinousness>.
And you know what? If it were just one incident most of us would sit back and go “okay, you really aren’t an asshat … you just showed a moment of poor judgement.” But if you unbundle his isolation techniques and rebundle everything that he does, and has done, he shows an overall pattern of … well … being a heinous self-serving asshole bully who believes he deserves anything he wants … and if he doesn’t get it becomes a petulant rich kid focused on some revenge.
<the latter does not reflect anything I want in a president>
Bill was a good president who was an adulterer. He also seems like he was a public servant to, and of, the citizens of America <and not sexist>. Oh. And he married a headstrong independent smart woman.
Trump was an adulterer. A creep with regard to women overall. Sexist. And , in general, the worst type of soulless capitalist you can imagine.
Hillary will be a good president who was not an adulterer, did not divorce her husband despite his flaws, has shown no signs of being anything but an ambitious public servant woman … and married an incredibly smart articulate flawed man.
But not all flaws are equal.
As Michelle Obama just said in a fabulous speech yesterday … “Enough is enough.”
“We live in the real world, with real problems that need real solutions.
We need someone with pragmatic approaches that include patience and compassion. That is Hillary Clinton.”
Idaho Statesman, the state’s most widely circulated newspaper, criticized Trump as insufficiently reliable on conservative issues, or unreliable, period.
A presidential candidate can’t say anything, and I truly mean ‘anything’, if its creepy <because no adult wants their son or daughter to be confused in thinking of it as “wow, the guy who is running our country can say it … and think it … so why the fuck can’t I ??!!??”>.
That’s why a presidential debate is … uhm … well … there is no age limit to view it because they are supposed to represent what is the best of us <not the worst>. That’s why words matter.
This horrible Donald Trump event is much bigger than a political event. This is a cultural “education level event.”
Someone on twitter called this election ‘the Sweet Meteor of Death’ but I disagree.
Our first black president changed America. Anyone would be silly to not think that.
Our first female president will also change America. Anyone would be silly to not think that.
And the change occurs in some horrible public ways.
But not all change is equal.
Obama ran against decent human beings who competed based on ideas and hopes … not racism.
Clinton, a woman, is faced with a non-decent individual who is competing not on ideas … and certainly not positivism or hope … but instead is plucking every misogynist and xenophobic and sexist string anyone anywhere could play.
I read somewhere … we are witnessing what Obama’s 2008 campaign would have been like if Obama had been running against a George Wallace.
In this case we are witnessing the Mad Men masculinity campaign against the woman of the future.
This will define who and what we are as people.
“Trump’s comments about women have shaken me to my core in a way that I couldn’t have predicted.”
“This was a powerful individual speaking openly about sexually predatory behavior.”
“This is certainly beyond the basic standards of human decency.”
This is not normal, this is not politics as usual. This is disgraceful, it is intolerable, and it doesn’t matter what party you belong to… No woman deserves to be treated this way – none of us deserves this kind of abuse.
“If Trump is elected we’re telling our sons it’s ok to humiliate women.”
I do not like how Trump conducts his businesses competitively or organizationally … and I do not like how he conducts himself personally.
I do not believe this is who we are as decent people nor do I believe he represents who we are as a country.
And … paraphrasing our FLOTUS … I will not let anyone tell us differently.