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no secret to life

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“There are no secrets in life just truths that lie beneath the surface.”

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Dexter

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I love this quote. To me it seems to put a highlight on the inner struggle we seem to have between:

trying to make life so ‘mysterious’, or convinced there is some invisible hand out of our control manipulating things, and (simultaneously)
a lack of desire to control, or assume responsibility for, our own life.

I would suggest that at it’s harshest this is simply ‘shirking responsibility.’

Yeah.

Some people choose to call it destiny.

Sometimes people suggest it is “god’s will.’

Some people are comfortable calling it fate.

All of which imply there is some excuse to not doing things, or getting things, ot attaining thing in Life. All of which imply there is some secret to life that unless we are Sherlock Holmes we will never know or understand.

Its all bullshit.

The fact is that life is just truths ‘that lie beneath the surface.’

And if you are willing to hold your breath a little while and dip down under the surface you can see truth.

Ah.

But truth is a scary thing <particularly when it comes to Life from a personal perspective>.

It means recognizing strengths & weaknesses <real ones … not societal ones>.

It means recognizing perfections & flaws.

It means recognizing past failures and lies.

It means recognizing what is real hope and what is false hope <being truly realistic>.

It means recognizing that we have some limits to what will be <and limits vary at what point in Life you assess the boundaries>.

It means, well, there are no secrets, just some harsh truths which unlock Life.

Look. I imagine we all hide from some of the harsh truths and inevitably retreat into some layer of ‘self lie.’ And while it may not be out & out lying the fact is we adapt socially to maintain some façade of what we “wish we could be.”

Freud suggests that we have a “hidden self” lying in our subconscious that is often too much of a struggle for our conscious minds to handle. To me that’s kind of his version of ‘there are no secrets, just truths beneath the surface.” Now. Because of that we do some cognitive gymnastics creating defense mechanisms twisting reality just enough to create justification to ourselves for our behavior.

Freud <no matter what I may think about some of the wacky things he said> is correct.

We all have either a hidden self or aspects of our self we would rather ‘hide from’ just because we would rather not face them.

Part of our defense mechanism is creating these mysterious “secrets of life.’

Well.

Sorry, my friends, there is no real secret to Life. Just truths hidden below the surface, if you are willing to look … and face them. That means, uhm, the secrets of Life are actually found in truths. Maybe that’s not a secret to Life but rather a non-secret we simply do not want to face.

Ponder this new year. Maybe stop seeking some secret and seek truth and it will, well, set you free.

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January 1, 2020 by Bruce

Written by Bruce

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Randall November 15, 2019 at 7:45 pm

I searched my own quote “life has no secrets, only truths that can be found by the worthy” and found this already written. I’ve met the conflict in giving these truths to people who haven’t earned it. Nice to see a like mind out there in cyberspace.

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