none of us are who we are on our worst days
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“Somehow, we’ll find it.
The balance between whom we wish to be and whom we need to be.
But for now, we simply have to be satisfied with who we are.”
―
Brandon Sanderson
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We all have bad days.
Shit.
We all have bad moments.
And I don’t mean when Life has ground you down or work has been like shit … I mean the moments in which you just make a really really bad decision.
A decision, a choice, in which there are bad repercussions … not for you but for someone else.
And there is nothing you can do about it.
You did it.
It is done.
Let’s call this “our worst day.”
And you can rewind it in your head and come up with all the ‘I did the best I could in the moment’ words & thoughts or even “I did what I thought was right” words & thoughts and … well … you know that is not true.
You had a bad moment.
It was a bad day.
And you made a bad decision.
And not only is that decision ‘on you’ it resides within you for eternity as your worst day.
Here is the tricky part.
It can reside with you for eternity externally also.
What do I mean?
Think about it.
If you want to know people you actually want to know their limits. Simplistically … most of us assess people by who they are at their best, what is their top potential, who can be a leader … who can actually be the best.
And then we move on from there.
Now, frankly, knowing weaknesses may actually be more important than knowing strengths.
And by ‘weakness’ I will ask everyone to forget good or bad as a person in this discussion because I imagine we all have some version of good and bad or even an unsteady moral compass.
This is about plain weakness.
The kind of weakness that permits the really bad decision to occur.
Situations have a tendency to strip away the good and bad veneer and have everyone focus on strength or weakness to bridge the situation.
And certain situations thrive on whatever our weakness may be. And then there is … well … THAT situation.
The moment in which what was just a day flips and becomes your worst day.
It is the moment in which your weakness is taken advantage of and becomes the worst it can be. And you become the worst you can be.
It is the worst of the worst. And it is your worst day.
It sucks.
We all know we are not perfect but facing up to the fact we may be weak or have some weakness that has an impact beyond our own self is … well … bad.
Some externally judge that bad as indicative of who we are <and that can haunt you for eternity>.
Shit.
Some of us judge ourselves on that bad as indicative of who we are <and that can haunt you for eternity>.
But.
None of us are who we are on our worst days.
We all have at least one truly regrettable decision we can never make up for or find any viable excuse for.
We cannot because it was us at our weakest.
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“It is always with the best intentions that the worst work is done.”
Oscar Wilde
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But.
In the end.
You have to always remind yourself.
None of us are who we are on our worst day.
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Written by Bruce
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