selfies (and how old people just don’t get it)

selfie canon

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cyanidegrrrl:

I like selfies because I am in complete control of how I am being presented that is powerful

… like boys on facebook laugh at the “stupid girls taking mirror selfies” and media mocks “generation selfie” but maybe that is because girls are controlling how they are presenting images of themselves to the world

and that is scary to them

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“I’m not vain.

I’m just recovering from years and years of low self-esteem. “

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Why I’m taking so many selfies

 

 

Well <part 1>.

 

If you want to really get an interesting discussion going in a group … bring up selfies. Shit. Even my 80something mother has brought up selfies in a conversation. Regardless. Rarely have I heard such unequivocal points of view with regard to a topic … from all ages.

 

Well <part 2>.

 

Let me point out that people have been doing ‘selfies’ for years … decades … if not centuries.

 

Huh?

 

The most famous … Rembrandt, Picasso <whose selfies are quite disturbing> selfie historicaland pretty much every great artist of their day.

 

I tend to think more older people should remember that.

 

 

Generalizing selfies as narcissistic or ‘regrettable actions of an unthinking youth’ is silly if not stupid.

 

 

Yes.

 

The digital age has made ‘unfortunate moments’ less easily forgettable moments.

 

But that simply shapes the conversation as “if a tree falls in the forest and no one is there, does it make a sound?”

 

What I mean is … simply because there were no smartphones when I was growing up and doing stupid things <that I am pleased to say never appeared on film anywhere> does that make me any more responsible then the current generation?

 

In addition.

 

Does my generation REALLY believe we wouldn’t have been doing exactly the same thing if we had smartphones when we were growing up?

 

Really?

 

C’mon.

 

“All grown-ups were once children … but only few of them remember it.”

Antoine de Saint-Exupéry

 

Anyway.

 

Sure.

 

Selfies can be silly, irresponsible and regrettable.

 

 

On the other hand.

 

They create a true mosaic of life.

The perfections and the imperfections of each and every day.palvin model being real 20 yr old

 

Would we rather not see the imperfections?

 

I don’t know.

 

Sometimes yes … sometimes no.

 

But life is not perfect.

 

In fact.

 

Selfies teach kids that.

 

 

Huh?

 

If you don’t think some kids take dozens of selfies that they do not send … before they find one ‘perfect’ <or appropriate for what they want to communicate or showcase> … then you do not understand what is happening.

 

Selfies increase awareness of how life is made up of each and every moment.

Selfies teach about regret and … well … mistakes … and forgiveness as well as moving on.

 

selfie addictionWe adults may not like what we see.

 

We adults may wonder what they are thinking when we see some selfies.

 

We adults may question taste or the decision to show something.

 

 

But if we adults don’t believe they know exactly what they are doing.

Or the repercussions of what they have decided to share.

 

We are nuts.

 

And even more nuts?

 

We would have done the same thing they are doing if we had the same tools they do now.

 

And our parents would have been tearing their hair out just as we are today.

 

Selfies are self-expression.

And they are absolutely about controlling self-image.

 

And in that we see the ups & downs of growing up in real time. and while we adults know that, for the most part, it gets better … simply shaking our heads at selfies with that knowledge is a simplistic response which only suggests to young people that <a> we don’t get it, or <b> we have forgotten what it was like, or <c> we don’t respect what they are going thru.

 

Selfies are simply a different version of a daily diary.

The thoughtful, questioning, sometimes painful words have risen from private pages and become public images.

 

I imagine I end there because as adults we then question the public versus private decision.

And think ‘some things are better private.’

 

Sure.

Maybe.

 

But is our version of private the right version?

Is it not personal taste?

 

And is it not inevitably our choice … and shoudn’t someone have the right to their individual choice?

 

And who am I to judge someone’s individual choice? <answer: no one>

 

We adults need to get over it.

 

Selfies may stay. selfie girl

Selfies may go.

 

The new private may simply be a public version of ‘you.’

 

In the scheme of things … does it really matter?

 

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Written by Bruce