stop searching for Superman

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” I stopped searching for Superman

in phone booths

once I realized

real heroes don’t need

a cape to save someone.”

Y.Z

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“But if these years have taught me anything it is this: you can never run away.

Not ever.  The only way out, is in.”

Junot Diaz

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Ok.

be your own heroI don’t know the specific number, but my guess is about 85 to 90% of people know that the best place to look for a hero is within <even though they may not articulate it that way>.

We know that most times no one is going to suddenly appear in the time of need and that we better think of the way out all by our little lonesome self and our own pea like brain.

We know that the best way out of almost any problem in Life is to seek the answer from within … not with out.

And, yes, there are most likely 10 to 15% of the people who are fucked whenever there is a problem because they are always looking for someone to get them out of whatever problem they have found themselves in.

That said. Even those of us who know you can never really run away and that you have to face whatever it is you have to face like to have a “superman” <or superwoman  … okay … a superperson> show up on occasion.

Let’s just admit it.

Sometimes we need some help. Not all the time .. just sometimes. And, most of us will admit, we don’t actually need the help on the toughest most difficult moment, per se, but rather the toughest most difficult personal moments.

What I mean by that is 99% of us can survive almost any challenge – no matter the depth & breadth of the challenge – if we are refreshed, fresh & focused. The problems occur when, well, we are not refreshed, fresh or focused. I call these the moments in which we are not the best version of our “meet the challenge” self.

It’s not that you aren’t capable of meeting the challenge. Shit. It doesn’t mean you are shirking the challenge itself. Nor are you even being lazy or self-deprecating or anything other than … ‘not at the best I need to be to meet this particular challenge.’ Those are the moments you sort of look around for a superperson to appear. You not only start peeking inside phone booths but you start poking around everywhere looking for some fucking super person to put on some cape and step up and help out.

And maybe that is the point of the first quote/poem I share upfront. Most superman phone booth common person helpsuperpeople don’t wear capes nor do they have snazzy outfit with a big “S” on the chest, but rather they tend to be some less-than-imposing looking guy or gal who just has their shit together – and they just happen to be there at the right time.

And maybe that is the point of the second quote I share upfront. You rarely find these superpeople if you are running away. This happens for a variety of reasons, but I would suggest this happens mainly because in your haste to get away from whatever problem you are running away from all the while thinking a semi-desparate desire for some help <and some superperson>, you are actually kind of just casting about wildly for someone with a big fucking “S” on their chest. Uh oh. This means you are most likely running by a shitload of less-than-imposing superpeople who would do you right if you would stop and let them help. My point? Therefore, if you do not run away, do not look for a way out … well … 90+% of the time someone will step in and help.

By the way … I am pretty confident saying this.

Why?

Well. Superpeople like people who do not run away.

Superpeople gravitate to people who don’t look for a way out, don’t look for someone or something to blame and don’t look to find someone to take responsibility for the challenge ahead.

Superpeople can sense character like a bee senses honey.

Look. We all need a superperson on occasion.

person expect treacherous paper townsEveryone of us.

But. I would suggest, despite knowing that, you shouldn’t search for superpeople nor should you seek to surround yourself with superpeople; you should simply seek to be the best version of yourself, place an immense value on your own sense of character … and, well, superpeople will find you.

Conversely, I would suggest, you can recognize someone of low character because the real superpeople cannot be found anywhere around them … even in their time of need.

In the end.

We all need help at some point. Its crazy to think you don’t. 90% of the time the hero you need is within you. But that 10%? Don’t go searching for a superperson, just raise your hand, 99% of the time, whether they look like a super hero or not, a superperson will show up to help.

 

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