Enlightened Conflict

interested not interesting

October 18th, 2011

“Its much more important to be interested than to be interesting” jane fonda.

Jane has been irrelevant to me my entire life.

Ok. Maybe better said she has been on the periphery of what I truly care about.

But. I read this quote and all of a sudden she became relevant to me.  She said something that not only made sense but was also thought provoking. And that was big in my relationship with good ole Jane.

Have I always agreed with what she has said or done throughout her life? Nope.

But when she says something like this I admit I think.  And rethink her actions. And just think in general about anyone in the public (celebrity like) actions.

Because I admit.  It typically drives me a little nuts when some celebrity makes a big stink about something – and it feels naïve and slightly out of touch. But with this quote from Jane it really makes me rethink a lot of things. And a lot of thoughts I have had about celebrities … and maybe all of the seemingly naïve things I have heard and just shook my head over.

Why?

They were interested.

Hmmmmmmmmm.

They took time out of their wacky world and paid attention to something.

Does it sometimes seem misdirected and maybe slightly out of touch to every day people and our lives?  Absolutely.

But.

Maybe it shouldn’t be judged that way.

Maybe it should be better judged in that they were interested.

That is Jane’s point. And it is a fucking good point.

They said or did something.  Odd or good or misdirected or right on target … doesn’t really matter in the end as I think about it … because they chose to do something.

Jane has really made me think.

Really think.

“They were interested.”

Wow. It makes me begin thinking maybe I was the naïve one. That I was the one who had the wrong perspective. That maybe I have been missing the real point all along.

Don’t I continuously suggest people should step up for what they care about? (Yup).

It is better to be interested than interesting.

That, my friends, is a big thought. And, yeah, I have elected to ignore the whole listening and selflessness aspect of that quote to focus on “stepping up” because that is the truly enlightening part.

Because in the end it comes down to several things.

Jane has always been a lightning rod for issues.

And some people are more so than others.

And we may disagree with them.

And we may think they are misguided idiots.

But we should all recognize that no matter what … that they are interested.

Interested in ‘whatever.’

And that counts for something.

And, in fact, I think it counts for a lot.

being an explorer

June 25th, 2010

how to be an explorer

Ah. How to be an explorer. Not everyone likes it … well … they like the thought of it but maybe not being it.

So. #3. Everything is interesting.

This is one of the most underrated thoughts in the world.

I hear so many people say ‘that doesn’t interest me.’ Or … in the work world … ‘I couldn’t work on that. It doesn’t interest me.’

Well. In my little wacky corner of the world and how I view things … everything and everyone has something interesting to be heard.

Or explored.

I always told people in my groups at work when we started working on a clients business to find the employee within the organization who has been there the longest, the most loyal, the most <whatever> of the organization. I didn’t care if it was someone in accounting or the mailroom or in administrative work. Find someone who loves the company they work at. I don’t care if it is an actuarial (which I would slit my own wrists before working as one) or plumber or hardware inventory clerk.

How can you not find something interesting within someone who has that kind of passion for what they do?

Interestingly (at least to me) this thought pertains to anything in life. Everything has at last one person who finds it everything to them. Yeah. They may be a little weird about it if it is TOO everything to them, but, maybe it is worth looking just a litle closer to see what they see.

You may never ‘get it’ 100% but there may be a part you have never seen before.

And seeing something new? Well. That’s what it is all about, isn’t it?

Anyway.

#3 is my favorite but whoever created this list did a fine job showing what it takes to be an explorer (everything on this list).

Bottom line.

Being an explorer means understanding everyone and everything has a story to tell.

Being an explorer means paying attention for that story.

Being an explorer means being modest enough to recognize you don’t know it all. In fact you recognize you know maybe 1% of everything there is to know.

In my eyes … I guess to truly enjoy life to its fullest … you should be an explorer.

And now you have an awesome “how to” guide.

Explore.

Enlightened Conflict