Enlightened Conflict

an act of solidarity

April 9th, 2015

goth tv ad alone sit

“Even if the entire world is against you, I’m on your side.”

what you hope a parent says




goth tv ad magazine
This is an older tv ad, 2014, and a foreign ad – German.


But I just saw it for the first time as I searched for something else.





Frickin’ fabulous.



Charming with a great message <and it is home improvement for gods sake>.







The execution itself.



In this 2014 TV ad from German DIY store Hornbach, a dad surprises his goth daughter with a home makeover to show his support.



Say it with Your Project:







If it only takes some black paint to make your child smile on a bad day, wouldn’t you do it?
But how many of us would actually think of doing something like this?


A room.


A house?
No frickin’ way.






So maybe none of us guys would actually ‘nut-up’ and paint an entire house … but the underlying message … saying “even if the entire world is against you, I’m on your side” is something we all have the kahones, or backbone, to do – assuming we elect to do it.



This is more than ‘verbal support’ … this is a vivid demonstration of support.
What a powerfully important message for a kid to know.




Let’s face it … the father is so perfect in the commercial because you unequivocally understand just by looking at him that there is no frickin’ way he understands his child and what she is thinking and why she is doing what she is doing.





Doesn’t that actually reflect most of us adults?







No bullying the child to conform. No suggestion she is taking the wrong path. No statement that ‘being yourself needs to be rethought.’ Not even “maybe you should dress differently.”



He only sees his beautiful daughter … one who has elected to rebel against ‘blandly white world.’


By the way … that includes her blandly normal father.



Everyone around her … classmates, teachers, and people on the street look with disapproval, confusion, and scorn.



What happens?



The bland father who doesn’t understand … makes a stand. In a vivid demonstration of support, without words but rather actions, he supports her fully and completely.you matter care



This ad may be about home improvement from a business standpoint but it is about growing up & kids more importantly.



It is about … you matter <a lot>.




I love this ad.



I love this message.

john green and teens

March 6th, 2015

————–teen indestructible

“When adults say, “Teenagers think they are invincible” with that sly, stupid smile on their faces, they don’t know how right they are.
We need never be hopeless, because we can never be irreparably broken.

We think that we are invincible because we are. We cannot be born, and we cannot die.

Like all energy, we can only change shapes and sizes and manifestations.

They forget that when they get old.

They get scared of losing and failing.

But that part of us greater than the sum of our parts cannot begin and cannot end, and so it cannot fail.”

John Green

Looking for Alaska

“Their lives and contributions are as interesting and as complicated and as meaningful as anyone else’s.”

John Green

infinities bigger than other





Let me be clear … I am not a John Green book fan. I have tried … and I want to like his books … but I just don’t.


But … that said.


I am a John Green fan.



I don’t think of him as a teen girl author … I think of him as a young adult advocate.




He is also a quote machine <books make me cringe … individual lines make me sigh with wonder>.







Back to young adult advocate.



As does any author … or anyone in the spotlight these days … he gets shit. He gets the snarky remark or question or comment. He has gobs of critics passionately arguing with gobs of fans.



And I imagine, as with any of these people, they sit on the sidelines and slightly seethe over some of the remarks.


The best stay on the sidelines and stay out of the fray figuring there will always be those blinded by passion and those oblivious to their silly hate.



And then there are those moments where someone like John Green cannot stay on the sidelines … and they show why you should like them … even if you may not like what they publish.



Here is where I became an unequivocal John Green, as a human … not an author, fan.




“How do you know exactly what teen girls want to read when you write your books that are about one step above truck stop romance novels?”


infinte be a voice not an echo






It’s perfectly okay to dislike my books, but don’t disrespect teen girls. It’s so tired. It’s so easy. And it’s so unfair.

Teen girls are pushing culture toward openness and fairness. Teen girls are making the art and music and fanfiction that has reshaped contemporary media and art. You know who donated most of the $1,400,000 raised by this year’s Project for Awesome? Teen girls. You know who were the first supporters and collaborators for online video projects from Lonelygirl15 to Brotherhood 2.0 to Five Awesome Girls? Teen girls.

This whole teen-girls-are-stupid-and-vapid shit is just so played out. Teen girls are human beings. They are not inferior to other human beings. Their lives and contributions are as interesting and as complicated and as meaningful as anyone else’s.










Take out girls.


Just say teens.



Teen’s lives and contributions are as interesting and as complicated and as meaningful as anyone else’s.



He may not write books I enjoy reading but he thinks thoughts … and shares thoughts … I enjoy reading.


sometimes they change  turning the page


What the heck.


Pick up one of his books … give it a try. I can only guarantee one thing when you read one … at some point you will come across a well-articulated thought, often in his dialogue, that makes you sit back and think.



And maybe … just maybe … he not only makes you think about teens as young adults with meaningful complex lives … but he also teaches you to think about Life a little differently.




“What a slut time is. She screws everybody.”

John Green

The Fault in Our Stars

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