“Let me never fall into the vulgar mistake of dreaming that I am persecuted whenever I am contradicted.”
Ralph Waldo Emerson
“We cling to our fairy tales until the price for believing in them becomes too high.”
I came across this “I want the fairy tale” gif on a tumblr site <from the mediocre movie Notting Hill with a fabulous British cast> while looking for an image and I ignored it for awhile … and then kept coming back to it.
I kept thinking “wanting the fairy tale”.
Now. I didn’t mean a ‘love fairy tale.’ Nor, as I have written before, am I discussing the importance of fairytales, the stories, themselves.
I am thinking more as in ‘your fairy tale.’ As in “doing something that matters” or “be anyone you want” or “being important” or “being on the front cover of Time magazine” or … well … whatever fairy tale you believed was possible when you were young.
Maybe we could call it “your dream.”
Ok. I guess I don’t care what you call it, but, I guess the question is — do we ever really lose wanting the fairy tale?
I tend to believe somewhere within us, well, okay, maybe the 90% of us every day schmucks who never really reached the ‘fairy tale’ we may have envisioned in youth, that we haven’t really completely given up 100% of the desire for “it all” or “the fairy tale.”
I don’t really agree with good ole Ransom when he says we cling to our fairy tales until the price.
I don’t agree because I actually believe we don’t cling to them because we actually, more often, let them slip away under the guise of “Life.” I say slip away despite the fact it may seem like we have given it up.
In fact, I would guess the majority of us have shoved that ‘fairy tale’ deep back into some dusty corner of our mind because we have shit to do and shit to deal with. But I don’t think we should confuse that as “not wanting our fairy tale.”
To me. This is simply reality shouting so loud that our fairy tale cannot be heard. Its there. It just loses its voice the older and older we get.
But here’s what I think I know <and I could be wrong>.
- Your fairy tale is always there
I truly believe if you had a real dream, kind of the ‘fairy tale you wanted’, not some silly childish dream, it never goes away. In fact I think it actually whispers n your ear more often than you are most likely to admit. What I mean by that is it whispers and we purposefully ignore it as “silly”, unrealistic, ‘that was then’, ‘when I was young and naïve’ and … well … pick your silencing mechanism. We have a zillion different ways to muzzle our fairy tale.
Yet. On occasion. Maybe in a moment of reflection. We actually pull it off some dusty shelf, dust it off, wonder if it still represents the fairy tale we thought it could be <and we could be> and maybe even listen to its whisper for a while.
Regardless. My point.
Even if you do not hear it … it is still there.
Even if you only hear a whisper … it is still there.
Even if you believe you have moved on and its voice is not worth listening to anymore … it is there.
Which leads me to …
- A fairy tale has no expiration date
Fairy tales do not really die. They can live forever. I think we confuse death with “we have quit on it.” Now. “Quitting on it” can take on a number of extremely viable good looking high quality t-shirts.
My existing career.
I am too old to change direction.
Its too late.
I have too many responsibilities for what I think is a ‘just me’ decision.
All of these t-shirts look frickin’ good on you when you look in the mirror. But. None of the t-shirts represent the death of your fairy tale just something that can cover it over. Let me repeat. A fairy tale has no expiration date.
Having said all that. The only thing stopping you from pursuing your fairy tale is time <depending on your existing starting point and what you may need to do to attain your fairy tale>.
I think my point today is I am fairly sure most of us had some fairy tale which means that we actually still have a fairy tale.
I think my point today is that I am fairly sure most of us believe Life has persecuted us by persecuting our dreams and fairy tales.
I think my point today is that I am fairly sure most of us are making a brutal mistake.
Fairy tales don’t go away, we don’t really stop wanting them and they really have no expiration date. The truth is you may find yourself at 30 going “time to go for my fairy tale” or maybe you do so at 50 … or, well, at any age.
I think we forget that we really do want ‘the fairy tale’ because … well … ‘fairy tale’ sounds so “what kids think.”
That is a mistake. A horrible mistake of not dreaming simply because you feel like Life is contradicting, and contradictory, to your fairy tale.
Personally I think it does no harm to sit down and say “I want the fairy tale” and then see if it is the time to go get your fairy tale. It does no harm because … uhm … what happens if you actually do make the pivot and get the fairy tale?
Well. Sounds like it would be worth it.