“We do what we have to do in order to do what we want to do.”
James Farmer Jr.
“Success doesn’t come to you – you go to it.”
I have written a number of times with regard to passion and how I tend to believe it is misguided advice to ‘follow your passion’ … in fact … I wrote ‘don’t find your passion’ as one of my thought pieces.
I will not recount my concerns with it.
Instead let’s focus on this little gem: what we want to do.
What we want to do spans everything from some grand audacious objective to some small ‘I want an ice cream cone’ want.
But I don’t care where you are on that spectrum … if you decide to do what you want to do you … well … you end up doing what you have to do in order to do it.
I imagine this is a different version of ‘go get it.’
I am fairly sure the line “if you want something, go get it … period” comes from “Pursuit of Happyness.” But this is not about happiness this is about doing what you want to do.
Doing what you have to do is not a passive thought. It is not ‘bending the rules’ or ‘do whatever it takes to win.’ It is all about actively pursuing what you want … going after it and … well … go get it type attitude.
This attitude is fairly consistent in its aspects & overall formula. I say it is a formula because you need to do all three of the things I list below … not just one.
I tend to believe everyone knows these aspects and this formula … and actually agrees with them … but not everyone actually does them.
Work … or … doing shit.
What you want almost certainly never comes to you.
I can almost guarantee that anything you want you will need to go get. It will require you to do some work and do some hard shit to get to some place where what you want is within reach.
If you do not take any action there will be no ‘what you want’ anywhere in your Life.
Relentless & resilient.
Work and doing is, unfortunately, not enough. Some people would suggest you need persistence … I will not. I think you need to be relentless and resilient.
Relentless people tend to be more resilient.
I say that because, truth be told, rarely is ‘working hard’ enough. Because even though you are working and doing … Life has a nasty habit of throwing obstacles in your way. And, let’s face it, it is always easier to find an excuse then it is to fight thru the obstacle <especially if the obstacles are relentless>. Resilience is kind of the engine for your progress … no resilience and the engine will stop.
Relentless and resilient may not insure Life won’t find some way to beat you down but it sure makes it more difficult for Life to do so.
Relentless and resilience keeps you in the game. It keeps you on the path toward what you want.
“It isn’t normal to know what we want.
It is a rare and difficult psychological achievement.”
Give your best.
Not all work is created equal and not all ‘relentless’ is created equal. In other words … you can work long and hard and still fall short of what you want to do.
You are the architect of your own fate. And the architects’ best tool is … well … doing your best.
And, unfortunately, you cannot know if the day you take off … or the day you decide to give something less than your best … is the day Fate decides to pay attention to you.
You have to give your best every day and every minute you can.
The other unfortunate thing is that rarely is ‘your best’ and ‘something’ <the outcome> immediate. It can sometimes take days, weeks, months and even years before you can see the results for your actions and relentlessness.
The only thing that is for certain is if you stop or give up you will lose it all.
That’s why this is a formula … you gotta work, be relentless and give your best to do what you want to do.
Here is the good news <because that all sounded like a shitload of work>.
If you really do all the things I just suggested and do what you need to do to do what you want to do … your success will be on your terms … and no one else’s.
“If your success is not on your own terms, if it looks good to the world but does not feel good in your heart, it is not success at all.”
In order to do what you want we do what we have to get it.
Not only does good shit ‘just happen’ but you have to work hard to have good shit happen.
Most of us know that.
We all wish to that success, and gaining what we want, would just be a little easier on occasion.
The only solace I can offer is that if you do things on your own terms, you do what you need to do to get what you want and you work hard doing your best … well … that is the best tasting success you will ever be served.