“Damaged people are dangerous. They know they can survive.”
“There are only two ways to live your life.
One is as though nothing is a miracle.
The other is as though everything is a miracle.”
And I don’t mean some high falutin’ job or some responsibility given but rather mistake experience.
I like people who make mistakes.
I like people who have made mistakes.
I like people who have had some significant failures.
I like people who have tried doing a variety of shit and have a list of shit that just didn’t go so well <or as well as they had wanted>.
I like the people who realize you survive 99% of the time you go out and try something without holding back.
Everyone who has survived some failure or mistake comes out of that experience damaged in some way. Most times that ‘damage’ is found in expectations or, maybe better said, plans or ‘how I envisioned it would go’.
Some people would call that “rationale for taking a professional action.”
The plan and path went to shit fast.
But I adapted and got to where I wanted to go. I survived. But I survived with damage.
The first damage is related to ‘the rationale.’
You start questioning how smart you are or how insightful you may be with regard to business organizations and what matters. I mean … what the hell … you thought it out, weighed the options and chose a course. Only to end up face first in some mud puddle that was never in your rationale.
Your ‘rationale thinking’ gets nicked up a bit.
The second damage is related to a harsh understanding, and semi-surprising revelation, that business mirrors Life.
You tend to believe business is more orderly and less chaotic than Life in general. Business offers a solid construct and when viewing the organizational chart you can easily envision paths and plans and people. You quickly learn that organizational charts are the biggest lies in business. They look static, they look flat and they look solidly structured,. The truth is that they are constantly shifting, they are multi-dimensional and ‘structure’ actually means ‘power’ can reside not in the box towards the top but rather in some inane responsibility in some department you never even paid attention to.
All the damage offers some benefits.
The scars actually strengthen an aspect of who and what you are.
The biggest benefit is that your “I will survive” mentality shifts from a belief & hope to proven truth.
That experience matters.
Once you know you can survive, Life becomes different particularly in the business world. When you first step into professional life most of us step carefully. We watch each step and recognize, more often than not, survival and success is more about a battle of attrition than it is actually doing something superior. And, yet, the longer we stay in that mode of behavior the more likely doing something, anything, starts taking on a larger & larger looming presence “doing that could ‘kill you.’
And maybe that is why I love damaged people.
They respect the danger, but do not fear the danger. They have met danger, been damaged, and understand that being damaged is not the same as being killed.
Damaged simply means “I have survived with some scars to show for it.”
Just as I would prefer picking up a sword which has some nicks rather than a new shiny unused one as I went into battle I prefer the nicked & used people to be on my teams as I go into the business battle.
And maybe the real reason is a little more philosophical <with a little humor attached>
In business, once damaged, you have a little more sense that it is not only a miracle you survived, but that it is a miracle anything good actually happens in an organization of any size.
Success in business is almost like running through a series of double Dutch jump ropes.
A little good sense of timing, a little miracle or two, a little smart instinctual actions and smart experience driven maneuvering. And absolutely some damage.
I like my people a little damaged. They not only know how to survive but know they can, and will, survive moving forward and taking steps.
I like my people damaged. They tend to not mind, well, getting damaged and are willing to do some spectacular things along the way.