Enlightened Conflict

executive coaching and solving obliviousness

February 24th, 2017

 

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“… life coaching is quickly becoming one of the leading tools that successful people use to live extraordinary lives.”

 

some Life coach

 

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“WTF.”

 

Bruce

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Well.

 

Back in 2013 I asked the question ‘what did we do before life coaching’ … used life coachthe quotes above … and basically stated I thought Life coaching was a bullshit profession.

 

And while I received a great comment, which highlighted some good points on what coaching should & should not be, basically scolding me with regard to what I said … any ‘coaching’ isn’t really about telling someone what to do but rather providing an outside perspective attempting to show insights to help someone get to where they want to go.

To me it seems to me that all Life, and Executive, coaching does is to assist in steps to insure … well … accountability … personal & managerial. And it seems to me that all this coaching does is make an attempt to better control one’s destiny <which I imagine is anyone’s real objective not just some executive>.

 

I know I could never be a coach mostly because I don’t think I am that positive nor can I use the words these coaches seem to love “world wants to give you everything you desire” … “your uniqueness is a pleasant gift you can give to the world” ….  “takes courage to follow the path you believe in”“positive energy always attracts positive outcomes”.

I know I could never be a coach because I do believe there are limits to someone’s ability … in other words … everyone has a ceiling. That doesn’t mean you cannot improve sideways or build some depth to improve or fill in some cracks in your ability … just that we do have a reality ‘stop sign’ with regard to our abilities.

 

Regardless.

 

I am just not that motivational.

It just seems like bullshit to me and all I want to do is to “talk about getting shit done the way you want to get it done using a good moral compass to guide it all.”

 

That would be my coaching selling point.

Kinda “blah.”

Kinda no bullshit.

 

And, you know what?

I talk with dozens of CEO’s and business owners on a random basis and they don’t need coaching … they just need some new perspectives to get them out of where they are mentally and step out for a fresh view on a topic, issue or problem. And they mostly don’t need any motivational bullshit, or any bullshit for that matter, or buzzword crap.

 

I still believe Life coaching <and I do toss ‘executive coaching’ in that segment … although most I have crossed paths with are less ‘faux psychologists’ and more ‘pragmatic measuring milestones’ advisors> as mostly bullshit.

 

But.

And this is a big but.

 

If I could ever point to a case in which I believe executive coaching, or Life coaching, may actually be useful … it would be with Donald J. Trump. I am fairly sure I have never seen a business leader with worse organizational leadership instincts and as poor inspirational, vision and communications leader skills.

 

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“The crowning fortune of a man is to be born to some pursuit which finds him employment and happiness, whether it be to make baskets, or broadswords, or canals, or statues, or songs.”

 

Ralph Waldo Emerson

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I am fairly sure we would have less than zero chance of convincing good ole Donald J to accept some coaching because I think he is oblivious to the fact he is not loved by all, he is not respected by all, he is not followed by all <because he attained the title> or that he is not perceived as a great business person by all.

 

He seems oblivious to the fact he actually has to ‘win over’ the skeptics <which every newly promoted leader knows you have to do> and that he actually has to ‘win over’ basic approval <which he is sorely lagging in>.

 

  • Donald J is not only oblivious I would suggest if he read what I just wrote he wouldn’t understand one aspect of it.

 

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“There was no answer, except the general answer life gives to all the most complex and insoluble questions.

That answer is: one must live for the needs of the day, in other words, become oblivious.”

 

Leo Tolstoy, Anna Karenina

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While people can debate his appropriate approval ratings <most agree it is dismal> a new CBS study broke down the range of President Trump’s potential support by showing people separated, by themselves, into four groups:

 

  • The Believers. the strongest of Trump backers those backing him but waiting for him to deliver. Believers (22%)] are the president’s strongest backers, who like what he’s doing and how he’s doing it; defend him against his critics, and see him as defending the country against threats.

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  • The Conditionals. Those quai-supporting him for now but waiting to see some results. Conditionals (22%)] will remove their support if he doesn’t ‘fix the economy’ for them. They’re also concerned about safety, but aren’t as all-in with everything Mr. Trump does, especially in terms of style. A quarter don’t like the tweets.

 

 

  • The Curious. The curious (21%) oppose Mr. Trump at the moment but ‘would reconsider’ supporting him if he does a good job. They’re looking for more than just results, though – they want Mr. Trump to reach out to them, and they want respect.

 

 

  • The Resistors. those who seem immovably, firmly opposed: The Resistors (35%). They want the Democrats to oppose Mr. Trump on many more things, rather than try to work with him; demographically, they are much more likely to be either African-American or Hispanic and young.

 

 

I would assume this is the specific type of information a leader, seeking to lead, would love to have. And if he/she <Donald J> chose to be oblivious to it … I would assume this is the specific type of information an Executive coach would love to have.

 

To ignore this type of information would not only be leadership malpractice but poor organizational awareness.

 

I wrote back in January that being aware that ‘converting Skepticals is always the key to organizationally unity‘.  No … it is not breeding excitement among the fewer believers nor is it attempting to placate the non-believers … getting an organization going is almost always about ‘the skeptical.’

 

Skepticals reside in the Promised Land for a leader. One foot in hopeful promise and one foot in practical promise.

I say that because 43% of America <Conditionals & Curious> are the Skepticals to Trump.

 

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……………… coaching Donald J. …………………

If I were coaching Donald J I would be focusing on that 43% day in and day out because … well … while I could argue it is the potential pathway to alignment … they actually reflect ‘effectiveness.’

 

If I were coaching Donald J I would tell him to be very concerned with the “resistors’ because … well … 35% is a ‘yuge’ number … as in massive. It is the kind of number that would keep any sane CEO awake at night.

 

If I were coaching Donald J I would also point out that if he would solve the Skeptical group they will inevitably drag a good % of the Resistors out of steadfast resistant into a ‘reluctant cooperator’ status <which is okay>.

 

  • Donald J is not only oblivious I would suggest if he read what I just wrote he wouldn’t understand one aspect of it.

 

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“I wasn’t sure what was worse: being oblivious or living within reality.”

 

Shannon A. Thompson

 

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I admit.

It seems crazy to me to have to be writing this shit.

 

Like I said earlier … I speak with dozens of CEO types and know even more personally.  Not one … zero … would need this type of advice.

And why I can say that is simple.

 

Of the 200 people promoted to their 1st manager position … 200 of them will make rookie mistakes. They will not have ‘coaches’ but they will have mentors & bosses and they will do some shit by trial & error and figure it out.

 

Of the 200 people promoted to their senior level manager position … 200 of them will make some mistake … but only about 20 of them will make a mistake that reflects some obliviousness to what reality is.

 

Of the 200 people promoted to their CEO/business owner position … 198 of them will make some mistakes … but the mistakes they make will not be organizational type crap but rather “what to do first & how to do things” type missteps … and maybe 2 of them will remain oblivious to reality.

 

I am sure Executive Coaches can help out on the “what to do first & how to do things” type missteps and that is why that profession exists … but what the hell do you do with the 2?

<which I am tempted to suggest Donald J fits into>

 

Anyway.

 

Lastly.

 

I would coach Donald J. on the “yuge” difference between confidence & optimism.

Trump oblivious curious organizationI could view the numbers I showed earlier as well as some other attitudinal polls and get a nice sense that a larger group of my organization had a strong thread of optimism for a variety of meaningful things.

If I were the CEO, I would like that.

 

I could also view the numbers I showed earlier as well as some other attitudinal polls and get an uncomfortable sense that a larger group of my organization wasn’t exactly confident — with regard to me & my behavior as well as attaining the desired results.

 

To be honest. The situation could be worse. If I were that CEO I wouldn’t be euphoric but on the other hand I would recognize that, if managed wisely, I could close the gap between optimism & confidence and make it a ‘yuge’ win for the organization.

 

  • Donald J is not only oblivious I would suggest if he read what I just wrote he wouldn’t understand one aspect of it.

 

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I honestly do not know what you do with regard to coaching a CEO who is either oblivious to the reality of his or her organization … or worse … believes it is irrelevant.

 

But maybe that is why I am not an Executive Coach. I wouldn’t know what to do to coach him.

 

What I do know is that because of Trump … I am actually rethinking my views on the value of Life coaching and Executive coaching.

 

 

Trump voters deserve some dignity too

February 9th, 2017

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Walt Whitman wouldn’t have forgotten them …

He knew that the fate of each one of us is inextricably linked to the fate of all.

 

The notion that the fate of each one of is tied to the fate of all is the essence of democracy.

 

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“Dignity is as essential to human life as water, food, and oxygen. The stubborn retention of it, even in the face of extreme physical hardship, can hold a man’s soul in his body long past the point at which the body should have surrendered it.”

 

Laura Hillenbrand

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“Every life deserves a certain amount of dignity, no matter how poor or damaged the shell that carries it.”

 

Rick Bragg

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So.

 

american handsI have been unequivocal on this issue from day one … people who vote, and voted, for Trump are no more, and no less, than anyone who didn’t. They are not ‘more stupid’, ‘more ignorant’ or more anything other than more for Trump than many of the other people.

 

Yes.

Trump is an unequivocal asshat.

 

Yes.

Some, and I mean a small sliver, of those who support Trump are asshats <let’s call them Deplorables>.

 

Yes.

As we watch Trump supporters twist themselves into pretzels trying to defend immature lack of leadership and some misguided behavior <with scraps of good ideas being wasted within> some of us want to smirk and say “I told you so” … or say worse.

 

That said.

 

Yes.

Most people who took the time to vote, who took the time to look around and think about their world, the world around them and maybe the world in a bigger sense <be that just America or global> deserve some respect. And they absolutely deserve human dignity … which anyone, regardless of who you voted for, should protect and recognize as one of the things that unites people in a democracy <albeit it oddly divides us at exactly the same time>.

 

Yes.

 

While I think Donald Trump is a moron … I cringe every time I hear someone describe the people showing support for him as ‘uneducated’ or focus the dignity prouddescription on “no college education.”

 

This implies they are stupid.

 

And it also implies everyone with a college education is not stupid.

Trump voters, as with 99% of any country’s population, are not stupid <and, I would note, people with a college education may actually own the market of stupidity>.

 

His supporters are real people with real worries and real lives … and are not stupid.

 

I wrote this in ‘calling of the trumpets’ back in January 2016:

 

In the end he is selling a false ‘us versus them’ narrative and he is selling empty promises by offering past glory which he will somehow craft as a phoenix from the fire.

It all sounds good.

Well.

It sounds safe … and ‘safe’ always sounds good when you view the future and see … well … fog and not a clear horizon.

 

But the future never … let me repeat … never resides in the past.

 

And people, including Trump followers, know that in their heart of hearts but when no one but a bombastic blowhard is offering what appears to be a viable alternative … some people, some smart people, with anger of feeling marginalized and concern for their way of life will follow even an empty promise.

 

But, once again, that doesn’t make them stupid. In fact … as I read what I have written I am surprised more people haven’t flocked to this asshole. Because asshole or not … if someone thinks he can deliver on ‘winning so much you will get tired of it’ and ‘being great again’ being an asshole can be overlooked.

 

We need to recognize Trump followers not as the ‘unwashed uneducated’ but rather as people, listen to them, debate and disagree with respect. And maybe, just maybe, we can convince them that the best version of them resides in the future which most likely will not look an awful lot like the past but be just as good if not better.

 

Trump is a moron but the people who are currently following Trump are anything but morons. They are thirsty and he is offering water. I may personally not want his version of water but I think it is up to me, and us, to show why the water I would offer tastes better than the water he offers.

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Yes.

President Trump deserves the respect of the position … but he also deserves the criticism associated with how he assumes the responsibility of the position.

To date he has only earned the moniker of ‘moron.’

 

 

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“As democracy is perfected, the office of president represents, more and more closely, the inner soul of the people.

On some great and glorious day the plain folks of the land will reach their heart’s desire at last and the White House will be adorned by a downright moron.”

 

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H.L. Mencken

 

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But that does not make people who invited their hopes in him as morons. If we were to make such a link then … well … that would be a crowded room because how many of us have invested in some misguided hope at some point in our lives? <answer: 99% of us>

 

Now.

 

Google ‘why Trump won” and you will get about “160 million results in .6 seconds.”

The theories run from insightfully intellectually complex to scary simplistic drivel.

 

I would suggest that everyone take a second and go back to the “One Recession, Two Americas” study PewResearch offered us back in 2010. have have nots 2 americas

 

You would end up seeing that about 55% of America “lost ground”, encountering real difficulties & consequences, and the other 45% of the country “held their own” — the recession was largely free of major difficulties.

 

That 55% not only ‘lost ground’ but they feel marginalized economically, personally <as a citizen>, American-ly <they feel America is being marginalized> and politically.

And because they ‘lost ground’ they became increasingly concerned about their country, their economic state, their families, their jobs and their future as well as the future of their kids

 

For that 55% their world view looks better, and very different, than the world that currently exists.

 

Where you live also is associated with how well you fared during hard times: Easterners are significantly more likely than residents of the South, West or Midwest to have better weathered the economic storm.

I should also note that a college diploma is a strong shield against hard times: nearly six-in-ten college graduates count themselves among the 45% who experienced fewer difficulties during the recession, compared with 38% of those whose educational attainment was a high school diploma or less.

 

Suffice it to say that for about 55% of the country the recession either stopped your progress or ground it to a stuttering progress. And that was in 2010.

 

Which means for a good 6 years those who “lost ground” have had to look around and watch celebrated wins <of which most did not participate in>, watch America social progress happen <of which often didn’t look like the kind of meaningful progress they cared about> and watch a government continue to make promises that only seemed to come to Life for … well … not the Lost Grounds.

And all the while they kept hearing people say “the lost grounders” lives are improving <and they wondered ‘who the hell are those people talking’ and ‘who the hell are the people improving’>.

 

I don’t need to make any high falutin’ intellectually complex argument with regard to why someone voted for Trump … I can go back to this one piece of research and say “here is where the 40some million people who voted for Trump resides.” They are the “lost ground” 55% of America all the way back in 2010.

 

And you know what?

They deserve dignity in Life and, it would seem to me, that ‘losing ground’ in any form or fashion … real or perceived … dents a person’s dignity <among other things> and that is just not that difficult for even my pea-like brain to understand.

 

In the end.

 

I want to be clear that simply because we may learn to understand and empathize with the issues other people, including Trump voters, may have that we shouldn’t maintain a constant vigil for HOW the issues are being addressed … to protect our rights, freedoms and … well soul.

And I mention the soul because debates between two people grounded in ‘here is what I think’ very often grinds its way down into a very practical and pragmatic argument … one in which important things like ‘soul’ get left out.

 

where no hope incumbent on us inventIt is incumbent upon us to maintain steadfast vigil over who and what we want to be “when we grow up” as we grind away over issues in the here & now.

 

It is incumbent upon us to take on divisiveness of ideas, minds and desires with respect.

 

But.

 

It is also incumbent upon us to remain vigilant with regard to the Trump administration and how it addresses ‘de-normalizing’ some of our American ideals that have remained steadfast for centuries.

 

It is incumbent upon us to recognize that the worst of Trump, & the administration, simply plays to the worst that is within some people … and it is incumbent upon us to state, simply & clearly & unequivocally, there is something better than the worst.

 

It is incumbent upon us, all of us, to recognize that Trump is an instrument of awareness.

Good bad, beautiful and ugly … his blunt childish simplistic rhetoric bares some of the truths we all have to deal with. But I would suggest it is incumbent upon all of us to not allow him to be judge & jury, nor should we be judge & jury for each other <Trump voters & non-Trump voters> … but instead we should encourage every individual, whether they voted for Trump or not, to look in the mirror for the judge & jury.

 

Look.

 

I don’t get it.

I struggle to find a real valid reason that anyone took a risk on a choice like Trump for America <present & future America> … regardless of how deep in a shithole you may think we are.

 

But.

As noted in my opening quote … the fate of each one of us is inextricably linked to the fate of all. I am they and they are me … and that is just the way it is. patriotism Trump voter freedom responsibility

 

I will listen and debate and treat them with the dignity they deserve … they are no more, or less, a patriot than I.

 

I cannot judge the Trump voter and I do believe they deserve the dignity of their opinion, their thoughts … and their issues that in some way made them believe  Trump offered some hope in resolving.

 

What I do know is that I can judge Trump, and I will, and I will do so vociferously to Trump voters as well as to the world at large … mostly because I know I don’t want someone like me to be president … I want someone better than me.

 

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meladoodle:

 

why do trump supporters say they like trump cause he ‘says whats on his mind’… like no shit man, i have people in my tumblr inbox who say whats on their mind all the time. i had a guy send me a message that said “vape on my dick”. thats whats on their mind and they said it. i’m not like “oh man… dude… lead us…”

 

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I got angry

September 17th, 2016

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Trump has probably done over 100 things, okay, thousands of things over the past year or so which make me sure he is unqualified to be the country leader <and make me doubt he could lead a turd out of a flushed toilet>, makes me sure I dislike his business acumen and makes me sure his moral compass is non existent.

 

But yesterday he made me angry.

That was a first.

 

Yesterday was the day he “announced” the president was an American.

 

Now.

 

While in his 33 second statement he only stated one truth <the current president is American> and offered the public two massive lies … that didn’t make me angry … mostly because it exhibited the normal lie to truth ratio he offers day in and day out <pretty sad how he has lowered our standards so low>.

 

What made me angry was … is … he is playing a game. And he is playing a game with democracy and the presidential election. And he isn’t even hiding the fact he sees this as one big game.

 

He sees it all as one big game and he is going to do whatever it takes to win his game.

 

Yes.

 

He is not running a campaign.

He is playing a game.

 

i-am-angry-man-and-dog-stare-lookHe demeans us, he demeans democracy, he demeans the country … and, maybe most importantly, he demeans the office he is suggesting he is qualified for.

 

To be clear.

 

I’m not angry at Trump supporters … I am angry at Trump.

 

And I am fucking angry.

 

I’m angry at someone who treats the political process like a game show.

 

I’m angry at the people in leadership who permit this to happen.

 

I’m angry that we, the ordinary people, are so angry at some shadowy ‘establishment’ that we cannot seem to assume some thread of responsibility for what is happening.

 

And let me tell you how angry I am about the ‘gaming.’

 

Because Trump has given me the opportunity to be angry hundreds of times before.  The truth is that in a fairly remarkable mixture of bombastic rhetoric, double-talk, vagaries and an outright onslaught of relentless lies … he says repulsive things every day.

 

While he is 99% bullshit <okay … 99.9%> … realistically to keep your sanity you have to choose one thing to focus on <which is part of his game because if I focus on one and everyone else focuses on another one and so on … how the hell can anyone put a thumb on this slippery slimy carnival barker?>. we-need-brain-trump

 

 

The bigger problem is that he says stupid things.

 

 

Ok.

The biggest problem is he lies. He is, at his core essence, dishonest.

 

 

Ok.

The biggest of big problems is what he claims he’d actually do if elected.

 

Whew. What he would do if elected.

I admit, his ignorance <with regard to the constitution, global realities, everything else> was amusing at first but it truly is Trump’s disregard for constitutional principles which is most likely the most disturbing <all the while holding up the Constitution verbally as his guiding principle>.

 

He doesn’t believe in freedom of the press <unless they say something nice to him>.

 

He doesn’t believe in freedom of speech <unless it agrees with him>.

 

He doesn’t believe in … well … let’s just say he is free of morality and principles which underpin the country <torture is good if the other guys do it, killing families of enemies is okay because it deters future enemy action, and ‘I’ will trump ‘we’ in decisions>.

 

 

Article II directs the president to “take care that the laws be faithfully executed.” Article VI provides that treaties are part of “the supreme law of the land.” These treaties include the Geneva Conventions, which govern the conduct of war. Yet in direct contradiction to these treaties, Trump has said that the United States should have stolen Iraqi oil and that we should kill the families of terrorists. As he told CNN’s Anderson Cooper: “Everybody believes in the Geneva Convention until they start losing and then they say oh, let’s take out the bomb. OK. When they start losing. We have to play with a tougher set of rules.”

Let me be politically incorrect <kind of along the lines of Trump himself>.

 

trump-sorry-i-am-psychoWhile I am not holding my breath I would be delighted if at some point he stood up and said “I am sorry. I have been a psycho. I don’t really like myself that much and I have been an unapologetic asshole for my entire life.”

 

He will not.

 

Shit.

 

He cannot even apologize for … uhm … anything.

 

Donald Trump is a liar. Period.

 

He is a crooked con artist.

 

He is a spoiled rich bully with an unhealthy relationship with his own mirror <and a desire for fame>.

 

Let’s be clear.

 

While he vociferously expounds upon ‘I am not politically correct’ as he demeans everyone who disagrees with him I seriously doubt that Trump would find my candor refreshing.

 

In fact … if he even acknowledged my presence it would most likely be in some dismissive tweet suggesting I wasn’t even worthy of a response <and, yet, he would be responding>.

 

This game playing with what should be a serious campaign for a serious position needs to stop.

 

The liar needs to be called out for the biggest lie — that he is truly running a presidential campaign.

Trump has seemingly called everyone a liar at some point over his entire lifetime, let alone the election period, all the while offering us an onslaught of his own lies … a liar telling lies but calling everyone else a liar is … not just an asshole … it is a reflection of the fact he believes he is simply playing a game.

 

He is a repugnant and ridiculous poser with no integrity.

 

He is simply a game show host stirring up interest to a television audience who is only going to find that what is behind the curtain is not the dream vacation we have always wanted but a plastic blender which runs at one speed.

 

I am angry.

 

I know we make incredibly stupid & often shallow decisions every day. We do so mostly not out of ignorance but rather out of expedience. But most of us turn on the TV and when we see a game show we know it is a game show. If we want news or some serious programming we turn the channel. Most of us know that ‘what we have been looking for’ is rarely found on some game show.

 

Think about that. And think about this.

 

On May 26 in North Dakota he said:

 

“Politicians have used you and stolen your votes. They have given you nothing. I will give you everything. I will give you what you’ve been looking for for 50 years. I’m the only one.”

 

Uhm.

 

I will give you everything.

 

If that were not so stupidly arrogant I would get angry with someone running angry-look-flufffor president saying something like that.

 

I am far beyond annoyed.

 

I am completely disgusted.

 

I am incredibly angry.

 

 

He is a flagrant scam artist playing games with America.

 

Look.

 

People claim they like him because he is no nonsense and unapologetic.

 

Well.

 

I don’t like it because I believe it is cowardly to not face your own lies and poor words and poor choices and remain stubbornly unapologetic when you are 100%, no, 100% to the nth degree wrong.

 

But I continue to say the worst is that he is unapologetically playing the election like a game.

 

confuxedGaming the press.

Gaming the people.

Gaming the system.

 

Gaming the overall construct of what is right, what is wrong and his basic strategy is confuxing everyone.

 

I am angry because I do not want a game show host.

 

I am angry because ‘gaming the system’ seems like it is the only principle Trump has as a compass.

 

What he did yesterday in gaming the world to advertise his hotel, demean honored veterans by using them to play a game with the press <and the world>and ultimately suggest only he was worthy of clearing up the fact the current president was something we already knew that he was <an American> makes me angry.

 

Some people may give him credit for his ‘savvy business moves’ in gaming the system to get free coverage and make others look like fools. I will not. He is running for president and this is not a game and he is not gaining any points for suggesting others are not as smart or savvy as he is.

 

He is fucking running for the president of the united states … not the smartest game show host on tv.

 

Let’s be clear.

 

Like him or not … Obama is an American and he has treated his role as president seriously and with dignity.

 

Like her or not … Clinton is an American and a serious candidate running a serious campaign understanding it is a serious role.

 

Trump is an American … and one I am ashamed of because he is a relentless liar trump-i-am-what-i-amwho cloaks himself in false patriotism to hide his lack of knowledge and overall ignorance for how serious being a president is.

 

And, worse, he is a game show host running to be the president.

 

And he is treating this whole election like one big game and one big marketing & branding exercise.

 

And that makes me angry.

 

Like it or not … only one candidate is running a serious campaign for president and is seriously trying to address what needs to be done.

 

And I am angry that I have only one choice.

 

Many of the things Ted Cruz says, frankly, scares me … but he was serious and understood the challenges facing a president and never treated the campaign without respect … and I would have had a serious choice to consider.

 

Marco Rubio often seemed like the all-star minor league player who you hoped would be the all-star major league player once he got to the big leagues … but he was serious, he constantly showed signs of learning & adapting and leadership … and I would have had a serious choice to consider.

 

Kasich … oh my … with Trump the con artist onstage many of us dream of the opportunity to have seen the serious, thoughtful, kind and practical John Kasich debating Hillary Clinton … now that would have forced me to make a serious choice.

 

Someone must stop this bizarre farce that some people call the Republican Presidential nominee. I fully understand many of you folk hate Hillary but she seems sane and interested in workable solutions. Trump just appears like he is treating the entire election as one big game and appears unwilling to put in the serious work to match the seriousness of the position.

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We should demand our president to lead by example and lead by assuming the mantle of responsibility, all responsibilities, of the position.

 

If Trump came into my office as an interviewer as unprepared and hollow and with such an unapologetic stance with regard to a resume strewn with lie after lie after lie … I wouldn’t even finish the entire interview.

 

Yesterday was bizarre, and a slap in the face to democracy and the democratic process, even in the realm of the Trump carnival barker show it was a new low.

 

And I am angry.

 

the calling of the trumpets

January 15th, 2016
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Trump Philosophy

 

“As democracy is perfected, the office of president represents, more and more closely, the inner soul of the people.

On some great and glorious day the plain folks of the land will reach their heart’s desire at last and the White House will be adorned by a downright moron.”

 

~

 

H.L. Mencken

 

 

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all morons hate it trump

While I think Donald Trump is a moron … I cringe every time I hear someone describe the people showing support for him as ‘uneducated’ or focus the description on “no college education.”

 

This implies they are stupid.

And it also implies everyone with a college education is not stupid.

 

 

And they, as with 99% of any country’s population, are not stupid <and people with a college education may actually own the market of stupidity>.

 

 

His supporters are real people with real worries and real lives.

 

They don’t all live in log cabins in rural counties nor do they all think NASCAR is the greatest sporting event in the world and they don’t all own guns.

 

 

Most of them, just as most of all of us, simply feel that something is not going right … and they are tired of that feeling <and how it affects their attitudes>.

 

They feel what we all want to feel … that things are going right and will be alright.

 

 

And that is what Trump is promising in a very odd way … with no details, no real proof he can do it, no tact <under the guise of ‘no political correctness’>.

 

 

But what he does do well is … well … not marginalize what these people feel. nor does he lecture them.

 

 

And these people feel marginalized economically, personally <as a citizen>, American-ly <they feel America is being marginalized> and politically.

 

And while being marginalize all the while they have real concerns about their country, their economic state, their families, their jobs and their future as well as the future of their kids

 

 

In their marginalized world they view a world that looks better, and very different, than the world that currently exists – a world in which THEIR ideas & thoughts are not marginalized but rather the norm.

 

There is a troubling aspect to their perspective … their concern for their world and the future translates into a view that all their problems are someone else’s fault. And even more troubling? The solution, whatever it may be, resides in the past.

 

Now.

 

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I may disagree with them … and vehemently disagree with them … but I will also vehemently protect their right to vehemently state their concerns & thoughts.

 

 

This doesn’t make me any smarter than anyone … but it seems like a smart thing to do.

 

 

Read back over what I just wrote above.

 

I don’t care whether you are optimistic or hopeful … we all fear being marginalized <on any number of levels> and we all have concerns with our country and the future.

 

Trump’s followers are people just like you and I in this.

 

We differ in how to address the marginalization and concerns.

 

 

Trump is an asshole.

 

But a clever asshole in tapping into marginalized feeling people in a number of ways:

 

 

1. He has cornered the “us versus them” narrative market.

 

He has cornered this market by somehow projecting that a billionaire NYC elitist is somehow representative of “us” and not part of “them.”

 

2. He has doubled down on the us versus them narrative.

 

By cleverly diminishing the ‘thems’ with “I like him, he’s a nice guy” <implying nice guys do not win – aren’t ‘winners’> as well as ‘nice’ implies likeable but not competent. — I call this “clever condescension.”

 

 

3. He is a master at diminishing everyone.

 

The Great Diminisher <as I call Trump> suggests “them” just aren’t as smart as ‘us’ <calling them idiots, incompetent, stupid, poor negotiators, horrible> which gets increased in impact every time some refers to the ‘us’ as uneducated, blue collar or low income … all of which imply ‘not as smart.’

 

 

4. He has made ‘them’ somehow appear more beholden to money than him.

 

Unfortunately in today’s politics you need money to win an election. If you do not have money you cannot be heard or compete. That is a simple harsh reality.

His own money, somehow gained more ethically in suggestion, seemingly trumps other’s money as well as their money always seems to taint the other people’s intentions. He has cornered the paradox by suggesting you need to be independently wealthy to run for an office yet we actually seek to have someone reflective of ‘us’ <who is anything but independently wealthy> in office.

 

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In the end he is selling a false ‘us versus them’ narrative and he is selling empty promises by offering past glory which he will somehow craft as a phoenix from the fire.

 

It all sounds good.

 

 

Well.

 

It sounds safe … and ‘safe’ always sounds good when you view the future and see … well … fog and not a clear horizon.

 

 

But the future never … let me repeat … never resides in the past.

 

 

And people, including Trump followers, know that in their heart of hearts but when no one but a bombastic blowhard is offering what appears to be a viable alternative … some people, some smart people, with anger of feeling marginalized and concern for their way of life will follow even an empty promise.

 

 

But, once again, that doesn’t make them stupid. In fact … as I read what I have written I am surprised more people haven’t flocked to this asshole. Because asshole or not … if someone thinks he can deliver on ‘winning so much you will get tired of it’ and ‘being great again’ that person is most likely willing to overlook assholedness.

 

how we survive makes us

<note: in fact … many older people think the best bosses had to be assholes to be the best bosses>

 

 

We need to recognize Trump followers not as the ‘unwashed uneducated’ but rather as people, people with real concerns and smart thoughts, listen to them, debate and disagree with respect.

And maybe, just maybe, we can convince them that the best version of them resides in the future … which most likely will not look an awful lot like the past … but be just as good if not better.

 

 

Trump is a moron but the people who are currently following Trump are anything but morons.

 

 

They are thirsty and he is offering water.

 

I may personally not want his version of water but I think it is up to me, and us, to show why the water I would offer tastes better than the water he offers.

Enlightened Conflict