Posts tagged leadership
lighting the way
Apr 24th
“As we let our own light shine, we unconsciously give other people permission to do the same. As we are liberated from our own fear, our presence automatically liberates others.” - Nelson Mandela
So.
I began with this quote and then kind of got pretty passionate about this topic the more I thought about it (that is a warning).
We all have things that matter to us.
A big or small issue that kinda gets the heart pumping a little bit.
The difference between people is that even though we all have something that gets us ‘going’ (heart pumping, anger, heartache, whatever) some remain silent, some speak softly and some speak loudly (or shine a light as it were) on what matters to them.
And while I abhor loud bombastic people … what I do give many of them credit for is the fact that by shining their own light (albeit a frickin’ spotlight) they have unconsciously liberated the rest of us to take whatever wattage our light is and bring it forth against some pretty dark things (if we elect to).
There is no shortage of issues that deserve some light.
- Statistics show that a woman is battered every 15 seconds in the United States by an “intimate.” That’s two million women annually who are battered or abused by their partners. Even more frightening is that every day (yeah … I just typed every day) 4 women lose their lives to violence … an estimated 1/3 of the women who are abused. Oh. And those 4 women are murdered by a husband or a boyfriend (not some stranger).
One in four women who commit suicide is a victim of domestic violence.
And. If that bothers you think about this … there are 3 times more animal shelters (approximately 4300) than battered women shelters (approximately 1500). <and I like pets but this seems kind of insane>
Here is a staggering number.
1 in 4 women will fall victim to Domestic Violence in their lifetime. 1 in 4.
Uhm. How about I make this personal.
That means that 1 of 4 of your female friends/relatives/neighbors is a potential victim.
Or.
- 115+ million kids globally not in school. More important than domestic violence? Yikes. It is all important stuff.
Or.
- In 2009, US child abuse involved an estimated 6 million children.
One in 4 girls will be sexually abused.
One in 6 boys will be sexually abused.
The numbers are stunning.
Stunningly horrible.
Dark numbers.
Or.
- There are 1.4 billion people globally living in poverty – under $1.25 a day.
Or.
- 925 million people are hungry. Every day, almost 16000 children die from hunger-related causes. That’s one child every five seconds. Hunger and malnutrition are the underlying cause of more than half of all child deaths, killing nearly 5.8+ million children each year.
Or.
- Women’s rights (which isn’t just about ‘the glass ceiling’ gentlemen). Women’s rights around the world are an important indicator to understand global well-being. Despite the fact a major global women’s rights treaty was ratified by the majority of the world’s nations a few decades ago … numerous issues still exist in all areas of life, ranging from the cultural, political to the economic. For example, women often work more than men, yet are paid less; gender discrimination affects girls and women throughout their lifetime; and women and girls are often are the ones that suffer the most poverty.
Gender equality furthers the cause of child survival and development for all of society, so the importance of women’s rights and gender equality should not be underestimated.
Or.
- Contaminated water. Bad water is still the primary cause of death in the world today. Each year, it leads to deadly illnesses like cholera, typhoid, malaria, etc., in some 8 million people, including 1.5 million children.
Ok.
I could go on but if you have any hesitation with regard to where you shine your light I suggest you begin here … with the UN The Universal Declaration of Human Rights which begins with these words:
Whereas recognition of the inherent dignity and of the equal and inalienable rights of all members of the human family is the foundation of freedom, justice and peace in the world,
Whereas disregard and contempt for human rights have resulted in barbarous acts which have outraged the conscience of mankind, and the advent of a world in which human beings shall enjoy freedom of speech and belief and freedom from fear and want has been proclaimed as the highest aspiration of the common people,
http://www.un.org/en/documents/udhr/index.shtml
Pick any article & issue from the Declaration and think about it. You don’t have to address it globally … it could be locally or it could be in your community.
Unfortunately … I can guarantee you one thing … while you will be tempted to think “oh, that’s not an issue we have ..” … well … do not fall into that trap.
Every issue resides in your community and in your neighborhood. Things like this are sneaky. And hide in dark corners.
Hence people need to step up and shine a light on these things.
Me?
I use words.
Others use pictures.
There is no one way to shine a light …
I call it enlightened conflict.
Frankly I don’t care what I call it, you call it or what anyone calls it.
Even if you only carry a 15watt bulb. It is light.
In the end maybe think about it this way … by lighting the way you are removing some darkness … the darkness of ignorance … the darkness that maybe stops someone from seeing a way out of their situation … the darkness of hopelessness.
Yep.
Anyone one of us can provide some light if we choose to.
So.
This is one of the few times you will ever hear me recommend speaking out – being vocal. I typically don’t like people on a mission with a cause. I tend to believe if you speak softer more people will actually listen – and believe. But in this case I will err on the side of I don’t care if you whisper .. croak .. or shout.
Speak. Each word is a light shining on a dark spot in humanity (or the shadows that are a reflection of lack of humanity).
Choose to speak out.
Think of it as shining a light on some darkness.
And maybe, if you are really really lucky, it will light the way for someone out of the darkness.
et le gagnant est
Apr 22nd
<and the winner is>
Ok.
Let’s say the people won today. If I were to tell you over 81% of all adults actually voted … and at least 4 candidates had over 11% of the votes (and the 4 of them had about 85% of all votes) you would tend to believe the process is working.
Today in France this is what happened.
The French people were involved. And a diverse group of candidates split the votes. The incumbent, Sarkozy, is in second place with 25% of the votes. A socialist candidate received the most with 28%.
Their process is a little different than America’s. Now they have a run off <until someone receives over 50% of the votes> between the top 2.But. The battle for France has just begun. With such a vote split between some really different perspectives someone will have to do some significant political direction horse trading to win. The scariest, to me, is the fact the far right candidate <Le Pen> who called for “economic patriotism” and vowing to leave the eurozone and taking a stance against globalization <an isolationist perspective> and a strong opinion on the dangers of the “Islamisation” of France gained a significant percentage of the vote and will now have the ability to influence future policy. Oh. Interesting because France has about a 10% unemployment and interesting because we often hear the same rhetoric from some of our own American candidates.
But. Let’s stick with over 80% involved.
Some perspective. In 2008 American presidential election was a 64% turnout rate. That was the highest turnout rate since 1908 (about 66%).
Maybe America can reach a 80+% turnout in the next election.
Anyway.
To give at least a little glimpse to the election. Here are the last live Guardian blog entries with regard to the French elections today.
10.38pm:
Reuters are reporting that with 79% of the vote counted Hollande is on 28%, Sarkozy on 26.9%, and Le Pen on 19%, according to the Interior Ministry.
10.29pm:
Marine Le Pen is really letting her hair down at the Front National after party. There are some shapes being thrown to some terrible French disco.
10.23pm:
According to an Ipsos Mori poll carried out for France 24, the Socialist candidate Hollande looks set to win the next round convincingly, with 54% of those questioned intending to vote for Hollande and 46% for Sarkozy in the second round.
10.13pm:
Updated results for tonight’s presidential election are in – suggesting that Le Pen has not quite taken 20% of the vote.
Here are the most recent results:
Hollande: 28.8%
Sarkozy: 26.1%
Marine Le Pen: 18.5%
Mélenchon: 11.7%
Bayrou: 8.8%
Joly: 2.3%
10.05pm:
Ian Trayor, the Guardian’s Europe editor, sent a European perspective of this evening’s results in France.
It is, he thinks, “a very bad weekend for Chancellor Angela Merkel in Berlin.
We have seen two triumphs for the Europhobic far right against “Brussels” and Germany’s domination of the response to the euro crisis – Marine Le Pen in France as well as the, albeit different, counterpart, in the Netherlands, Geert Wilders. The rightwing Dutch government, particularly its voluble finance minister, has been among the loudest of preachers for the past two years on what the Greeks, Irish, Portuguese etc have to do.
In addition, François Hollande’s overall victory in France spells more trouble for Merkel since he is pledged to challenge German prescriptions on the single currency’s rescue.
Le Pen’s performance – one in five French voting for the National Front – is another thumbs down to Merkel, eurozone fiscal pacts, and surrendering national sovereignty over budgets and fiscal policy.
Hollande will be a cannier navigator of the contest over European economic policy-making – the tide is turning his way. But Germany is bigger, stronger, and much more successful.
Elections are interesting.
And even more interesting given the fact that so many countries, affecting a large percentage of the world’s population are occurring here and now.
For now?
Putin is leading a rejuvenated Russian motherland patriotic focus.
France appears to be moving in a socialistic direction which means that maybe the political and the economic governance of Europe are heading in two opposed, contradictory directions.
And America? Well. We shall see.
right brain, left brain, ambidextrous brain
Apr 9th
So I thought I had left the whole right brain left brain discussion behind. And it reared its ugly head again one more time just the other day.
And <distressingly> it was in a business environment, with senior people, discussing people’s strengths & weaknesses.
Look.
This whole right brain, left brain thing has to stop.
Now <please>.
The truth? We use our whole brain. Not halves.
And right brain left brain mumbo jumbo is just that … a bunch of mumbo jumbo crap.
Yup. The whole thing is bullshit.
Trust me. If you ever want to drive a psychologist/psychiatrist/neurologist/any ‘ist’ crazy … bring it up.
<just a reminder>
In the right-left mythology … the left brain is logical, ordered, and analytic, and it supports reading, speech, math, and reasoning.
In the same myth … the right brain is more oriented towards feelings and emotions, spatial perception, and the arts, and is said to be more creative.
Interesting myth.
And it is a myth.
It is wrong (wrong & wrong … and maybe even wrong again).
We have known for at least 30 years that this characterization is incorrect.
In fact the guy who probably put us all in this mess originally (Mike Gazzaniga who created the study in the 60’s that some pop psychologist used to write some fantasy business books that became best sellers) who was a pioneer of modern study of brain hemispheric differences immediately tried to put a stop to the craziness as soon as it began with a book chapter titled “Left brain, right brain: A debunking.”
And he did that 25 years ago.
<note: he wrote it because the original crap was begun after he did a brain hemisphere study in the 60’s>
And there is still plenty of bunk to go around.
Its crazy.
I myself have gnashed my teeth (and sometimes growled) against the “left brain / right brain” myth for years (probably not 25 but a bunch).
People are always trying to tell me how “right-brained” I am (or left … I get confused).
Which I always find amusing since whatever I am doing invariably needs whatever the other side of the brain was supposed to be doing.
Plus. I would like to think I am using my whole frickin’ brain.
But.
It mostly aggravates me (and kind of disturbs me) because it is deliberately misleading.
It has been used to support endless management dialogue telling us that we should liberate ourselves from too much left-brain ‘logical’ thinking and enjoy the fruits of our liberated, right-brained creativity <or vice versa depending on your management belief system>.
Look. People may be inherently more visual, aural, spatial, sequential, intuitive, rational <or irrational> talented or non-talented … but it ain’t because of anything to do with left versus right brain.
Ok. If you don’t trust me I pulled this from a medical journal.
A more technical explanation of how the whole thing went haywire:
You’ve probably heard this left/ right brain dichotomy before. It goes something like this: the left hemisphere of the brain is logical, deductive, mathematical, etc., while the right hemisphere is artistic, visual and imaginative. The idea stems at least partly from the classic studies of split brain patients performed by Sperry and Gazzaniga in the 1960s.
There are some functional asymmetries in the brain, and it is true that certain regions of both hemispheres are specialized for particular functions. Speech illustrates this, but also shows that nothing is ever so simple when it comes to the brain: in most right-handed people, speech is processed in both hemispheres, but predominantly in the left. In some left-handers, speech is processed either predominantly in the right hemisphere or on both sides.
So the notion that someone is “left-brained” or “right-brained” is absolute nonsense. All complex behaviours and cognitive functions require the integrated actions of multiple brain regions in both hemispheres of the brain. All types of information are probably processed in both the left and right hemispheres (perhaps in different ways, so that the processing carried out on one side of the brain complements, rather than substitutes, that being carried out on the other).
An article was published this week in the venerable (and reliable) psychology journal Psychological Bulletin, which synthesized 67 brain imaging studies of creativity. Among other things, it showed that creativity is not especially a right-brain function. In fact, two of three broad classes of creative thought that have been studied seem not to depend on a single set of brain structures.
What we call “creativity” is so diverse that it can’t be localized in the brain very well.
One might think that this study would put to rest at least part of the left brain/right brain mythology, namely, that the right hemisphere of the brain is more responsible for creative thought than the left.
One would think so, but I wouldn’t count on it.
My conclusion?
I put the whole right/left brain thing in the same category as reading a horoscope or reading my own tarot cards.
If you give someone a vague positive description in which they can see themselves they will tend to agree with you.
And that is dangerous on a number of levels (if people actually believe it).
Ok.
Here is the main reason I bring this up (beyond the fact it drives me crazy and it is still being seriously discussed in the business world).
It has a detrimental effect on education and how we manage our youth.
It is as bad as social profiling when it comes to kids.
Left brain kid.
Right brain kid.
You carry that label and not only does the child begin to see themselves in that label (it is kind of a self-fulfilling prophecy) the adults tag the child with the label. And start treating them that way. And expecting things based on the labeling.
All of a sudden the child is placed on the left, or right, brain treadmill <oops … I meant to say moving sidewalk>.
And then they are left there.
Uh oh.
One day the child wants to jump off the treadmill to hop on the other one for a while … <adults> “whoa … get back on your treadmill … you know that other one is only for the right brainers … and you will be much more successful on the left brain treadmill <sidewalk>.”
That, my friends, reads scary even if it seems just a theory.
And we all know that at some place, at some time, with some children … this is actually happening.
We need to squash this left/right brain myth forever.
Now <please … again>.
We use all of our brain. Brains are ambidextrous. And even if you do not want to believe this at least teach kids that is is so.
the lost art of sportsmanship
Apr 1st
“The grace of the gesture is as important as the victories” – Rene Lacoste
Well.
The Guardian, as part of their spectacular “Joy of Six” series, recently wrote one on sportsmanship. And it made me think about the lost art of sportsmanship.
Why?
First. Take a look at the 6 ‘sportsmanship’ moments. http://www.guardian.co.uk/sport/blog/2012/feb/10/joy-of-six-sportsmanship?INTCMP=SRCH
Second.
Try and imagine any of the happening today (because the most recent highlighted is almost 40 years ago).
You can’t. Well. If you can you have been smoking too much weed.
Anyway.
Beyond the weed comment … I will admit upfront that despite playing competitive sports at some good levels I have never had that killer instinct competitive muscle. It’s there … but it wasn’t there all the time … it needed to be triggered (and, maddeningly on occasion, it was difficult to uncover the trigger). I say that to put what I am going to write into some perspective.
Because winning has never meant everything to me. I loved the game. And I loved playing the game well. And a good outcome was just the icing on the cake.
Regardless of my personal attitude … there is a weird dichotomy taking place in the sports world today.
At the youngest youth level it all begins with a “no one wins or loses” perspective.
And then, oddly, young people are encouraged to specialize (in my youth we played every sport any season and just shifted). Today? Find what you have an aptitude for and then excel (max out) on that one.
And then when you specialize there seems to be an overall “win at all cost” mentality built into the competitiveness. So it isn’t just being competitive … it is win at all costs.
I could find a story every day showcasing incidents displaying the loss of sportsmanship and respect for authority and opponents.
Refs, umpires and coaches are verbally and physically assaulted.
Parents are sometimes excessive in the way they push their kids to be the best.
Coaches are demanding perfection from their players and punish them when they give anything less.
Children learn by example.
So what examples do they find when it comes to sports?
Turn on any college basketball game to discover how easy it is to read the lips some irate college coach dropping an F-bomb while screaming at the refs and players.
Or a tennis tournament where players are yelling at umpires and line judges.
The list goes on and on.
It is kind of sad.
The one place we don’t really see this? The Olympics.
The Olympic motto: “The important thing in the Games is not winning but taking part. The essential thing is not conquering but fighting well.”
We need more of that attitude … everywhere in sports. Not just the Olympics.
Maybe athletes just need to remember while they are getting paid … it is a game (for god’s sake).
“Do you know what my favorite part of the game is? The opportunity to play.” -Mike Singletary
Some remember.
And what Mike said? That is why we play sports–or at least why we’re supposed to.
That is what we need to remember ourselves and teach our children.
Being the best hitter, running back, three-point shooter or goalie is nice … but it’s not what it’s all about.
Sports are supposed to be about being the best we are capable of.
And respecting our own abilities as well as respecting others … regardless of whether their best is better than our best.
Oh.
And respecting everyone … teammates, opponents, coaches, refs and spectators.
Yes.
Sports are inherently competitive (hence the reason there is a winner and a loser).
And competition brings out the best … and worst … in everyone.
Competition, and sportsmanship, inevitably is about character.
competition makes a person’s real character come out.
And, I hate to break the news to everyone, it takes work and training and shaping and thoughtfulness.
Sportsmanship SHOULD be simple. But its not.
Kids get mixed messages from mentors and role models.
You can teach principles of good sportsmanship to anyone but, in the end, it’s about each person.
Cheating, lying, badmouthing, complaining to officials are all reflections of someone’s character.
More people need to take responsibility (and not blame “the game” or “the moment”).
Look.
I am not using this following as an example to pick on Serena … because I just think it is indicative of an overarching sportsmanship thing.
So. In 2009 Serena Williams threatened to shove a racket down a referee’s throat during a semifinal. Here is the deal.
With higher salaries and more on the line, it’s not surprising that more and more athletes are making headlines for unsportsmanlike conduct.
“I think there’s so much pressure on players today. The average player makes close to three million — they’re making so much money that they have a lot self-imposed pressure and they need a scapegoat. Sometimes that becomes the umpire.” – Jim Evans (Academy of Professional Umpiring)
But.
And this is a big but.
I don’t think it is an excuse.
Sportsmanship isn’t really about sportsmanship … it’s about personal character.
“Sportsmanship for me is when a guy walks off the court and you really can’t tell whether he won or lost, when he carries himself with pride either way.” – Jim Courier
Here is the hard part to some people.
Cheaters do win. Maybe not philosophically but in the win/loss column.
And that is where I like to point out to people … that is why this is about winning or losing from a character standpoint.
There are a couple of scoreboards for people who play sports.
One is the win loss record.
And one is a life scoreboard.
Sportsmanship shows up on the life scoreboard.
And I wish more people playing sports would pay attention to that scoreboard.
How do I now they don’t?
Go back to the Joy of Six article.
How often do you believe that would happen today?
We are losing the art of sportsmanship.




















