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pressure doesn’t gain time

February 13th, 2013

Ok.and time is all there is

I almost called this “our obsession with time.”

And because of this obsession … procrastinators, who have always been crucified, are being verbally harpooned day in and day out in books, businesses and everyday life as “time wasters” <which is metaphorically making those people as bad as smokers, litterers and communists or, in general, inferior flawed people>.

Yup.

In my eyes procrastinators have a tough life these days.

 

Employers are getting better at squeezing any ‘time wasting.’

And peer pressure makes any time wasting become the equivalent of having a post-it note super glued to your forehead with lazy/inefficient/nonproductive/etc. <choose one or all> on it <or just a poor employee>.

Even compensation is becoming more short term.

Almost 60% of Americans are paid hourly.

And even if management isn’t tracking hours, paying people by the hour, demanding meeting effectiveness by the minute or utilizing time efficiency models to squeeze every productive minute out of you … you are putting pressure on yourself with to-do lists, calendar updates, scheduled sex events with your partner and “family time” <limited to maximize 15 minute increments to insure you get everything done you need to get done>.

We are so obsessed with time and maximizing it … all of it … each and every minute … and we are being pressured <by others or by ourselves> to do so all the with the intent to ‘gain time.’

<side note: this, to me, falls into the same category as ‘giving 110%’ in terms of absurdity … I can’t gain time or ‘free up’ time … I gots 24 hours no matter how I manage it>

Anyway.

We are constantly seeking to maximize moments under the guise of ‘not procrastinating’ or in harsher words … not wasting … our time.

Maslow suggested we should seek, and encounter, “peak moments of clarity.”

Some bonehead called Eckhart Tolle <who is considered a very smart bonehead in some circles> wrote an entire book expounding on living a life in the ‘now’ (Power of Now) which was slightly absurd.

A company I worked at, JWT, even wrote a trend white paper called “Time is the new Currency” <in the early 2000’s I believe>.

 

stopThis is crazy.

First of all obsessing over anything, let alone time, is not and never will be … healthy.

And secondly it will never increase efficiency, nor effectiveness, when all time is said and done.

Thirdly, pressure, especially on an ongoing basis, is never a good ingredient in the formula for happiness.

All that said.

 

I would like to reference an obscure article which can be found in the Academy of Management Journal <Brian Gunia & 3 co-authors of Johns Hopkins> and a book “Wait: the art and science of delay” <Frank Partnoy>.

Let me begin with one of my favorite topics – doing the right thing <ethically>.

I found it really interesting that in a series of experiments slowing down actually makes us more ethical <I had to reread this several times because I guess in my own head I would have thought our initial knee jerk reaction to a decision situation would have been us at our most ethical … but I was wrong>. When confronted with a clear choice between right and wrong, people are 5 times more likely to do the right thing if they have time to think about it rather than if they are forced to make a snap decision. In addition they studied businesses and suggest organizations with a ‘fast pulse’ <like banks> are more likely to suffer from ethical problems than those who move more slowly.

Say what?

Yup.

Time pressure enhances the odds someone will make a less ethical, less right, decision.

Beyond that … the books and research suggest that delaying decisions <not yielding to time pressure> actually enhances the quality of the decision.

Sure. There is a ROI on time and delay and decision making … I imagine if I were smart enough I could draw out a decision utility graph with time and quality of decisions but I am not only not smart enough but I cannot draw.

Suffice it to say these relatively smart guys say that in their published papers.

Look.

Maybe because of the business I am in I get asked a lot about family time (or diminishing of family time) and not having enough time to <fill in the blank> or managing time.

Beyond the fact I have either seen or have done so much research on how people actually USE their time … I have found that we invest so much time trying to manage time … or worry about how to alleviate the pressure time seems to put on us … we actually waste a shitload of time <which actually creates a doom loop of pressure to use and maximize time>.

There is so much discussion and pressure on what to do with time I see diminishing results.

The pressure to maximize time is actually leading to minimizing time (go figure)

So.

I remind people that we all have the same amount of time … which usually draws some evil looks … but its true … it’s what you elect to do with it and, maybe more importantly, your approach toward time.

I tend to believe we forget, or undervalue, the fact that it is less important to do things first then to do things right.

And I have someone on my side … Warren Buffett … who has said … “lethargy bordering on sloth remains the cornerstone of our investment style.”pressure and time

<and he has made a BOATLOAD of money>

Me?

I worry that our obsession with time <speed> has a negative effect in business and at home <basically … in our lives>.

The secret to an effective brain is a combination of fast and slow <and there is research to support this>.

Procrastinators get a bad rap … yet this is exactly what they do.

A fact.

If you leave something to the last minute you only have a minute to do it.

Sounds obvious but it is a truth.

Procrastinators are actually the ultimate non procrastinators.

They utilize their time the most effectively.

The research shows that procrastinators actually use the time while putting things on hold thinking and evaluating and assessing different shit. Some relevant shit and some non relevant shit … but it all goes into our mental gourds … rattles around … and when the time comes when the decision/action trigger needs to get pulled … the majority of the time the action is a well rounded ‘right’ decision.

And if that just isn’t you?

Think about this … I found this thought from a mother … or maybe call her a ‘home manager’ instead.

“When you don’t know what to do next, just do the thing in front of you.”

Ok.

If you can live with that kind of thinking I actually believe that not only alleviates pressure <because you just say ‘screw it … I am just doing something’> and you are actually ‘doing’ inseatd of planning or thinking or worrying.

Ok <part 2>.

But I admit it certainly helps if you have more of an idea of what’s the most important thing to do next.

Because these days it seems like too many of us respond to the tyranny of the urgent.

One of the characteristics of an adult who has their shit together is the ability to recognize the difference between the important and the urgent.  And, ultimately, refuse to be tyrannized by the urgent … refuse to manage by crisis … refuse to waste time under the pressure to not use time wisely.

Sure. Easier said than done.

Who hasn’t struggled to start something ‘important’ but can’t seem to find the time because of an exploding diaper, an urgent business email, the ringing telephone, or whatever the crisis du jour may be in your own little world?

But as time managers we must recognize the difference … and disregard not only the pressure of others … but the pressure of the moment.

We cannot operate solely in response to the pressure of urgency for long … or we will go nuts.

Well.time persepctive

Time is not about pressure … it is simply about choices <which I fully recognize creates a different type of pressure>.

And choosing what is most important.

When we’ve made deliberate decisions about what’s important certain choices become a no-brainer.

You’re at peace with the choices you make, because they align with your priorities, and they just make sense.

Regardless.

If time is about choices … and under pressure we tend to make poorer choices … it kind of seems like that equals something to the effect that pressure loses time.

Go figure.

But I was never good at math.

girls, self esteem & title ix

June 27th, 2012

“but tell yourself it’s nothing new

cause everybody feels it too

they feel it too

And there’s just no getting ’round

the fact that you’re thirteen right now” – Natalie Merchant

Ok.

I began this with some Natalie Merchant lyrics, which I will get back to, but this is about Title IX and a new tv ad I saw.

First.  I couldn’t wait for someone to finally do this ad.

Second. I could have waited for someone to do it right.

Let me begin with the television commercial “Keep her in the Game”: http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=URVYgTbbryE

The message to young girls? The first half is awesome.

Second half? I admit. I scratched my head a little.

I get that some research must point out that young girls are more likely to drop out of competitive sports at 14. And I get that the same research most likely <I am guessing but it’s not a stretch> suggested “desire to becoming a young woman”, and all the societal trappings that come along with it, as primary reasons they dropped out.

But actually blaming society? Whew. Not sure I am buying what they are selling.

Regardless. We ask our young people to grow up very fast these days. Or let’s say “act like adults”. And we do it before they are capable of thinking like an adult.

Clarification: Capable translating into maturity not brain power (although, when I look at some of the role models I question whether they, as adults in age, are capable of thinking like an adult).

Anyway. What young girl doesn’t want to look sophisticated and mature and …well…beautiful?

Its just that today’s role models are not typically Audrey Hepburn anymore. Even if their role model is Piper Perabo (who I have always liked) that means here is her role model:

But.

Keeping them playing sports? Yikes. That is a little bit of a stretch for me. I think all the female athlete photo shoots/calendars floating around and Maria Sharapova and Mia Hamm and … well … there are a slew of athletic examples which suggest a young girl can be beautiful … and feminine <if that is important> and still play sports.

Look. I know role models are challenging. Personally, thinking back, I don’t remember ever wanting to emulate someone <a celebrity> as I grew up. Did I admire some? Sure. Were they role models? Nope. They …well … lived in a different world and I knew it. Did I want to copy my favorite baseball player’s swing? Or someone’s jump shot? Sure.

Did I care how he dressed or wore sweatbands? Not really. And I certainly never thought about emulating anything about their lifestyle.

Role models, too many in my generation, were not celebrities but close family and friends. People we could see and touch and sense. Not someone mysterious created by media where I had to guess on true character. Were some of them flawed? Of course. But I am not foolish enough to suggest that is the same for this generation.

Anyway. The television ad, “Keep her in the Game”, which prompted this post.

Me? After I saw the beginning of the ad I wanted a “self esteem” message and a “tell yourself you are 13” message … not a “so they stop playing sports” message.

I do not begrudge women’s athletics reminding girls they don’t have to stop playing sports to be feminine. They just chose the wrong foil <in my eyes>.

I will get back to Title IX … but for a moment let me tell you what I would have done.

Nobody will be surprised but I would use music (probably because I had a song stored away in one of my “if I had an opportunity to use” folder) to drive home the message they were trying to communicate. While I would make some changes visually I guess it would be relatively easy to envision using the following song, Tell Yourself by Natalie Merchant, over the same visuals in the “Keep her” TV execution and get a sense for what could be a powerful message <by the way … I also like the fact that Natalie is a also a strong female role model>.

Tell Yourself: http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=uVhKVpFRk6Y&feature=related

I do believe it is unrealistic to suggest tween women ignore society … you can only manage societal issues & pressures.

I do believe it is realistic to suggest tween women understand they are only a tween … and that there time will come.

In the end <on this topic> I really wouldn’t give a shit whether my daughter played sports or not (even though I am a sports guy & proponent for the life lessons it teaches) but I do give a shit about how they respond to many of the message society seems to bombard them with <and the ensuing self-esteem issues it seems to burden them with>.

Anyway. That was the TV ad.

Ok.

Back to Title IX.

Now this, my friends, is an empowering ad for young girls <figures Nike would know how to do it>:

http://www.youtube.com/user/nikewomen?v=f1ighxU1vYw

Beyond any television commercials … I am a fan of Title 9.

And I wish if they had done an ad about title IX regardless of whether they wanted to leverage a topical issue facing girls or not they had reminded people it wasn’t about playing sports … it’s about providing the opportunity that sports has to offer with regard to life lessons and learning.

Because while we may think title 9 is just about “sports” … the women, just as men, who play sports are not likely to go on and play at a college level let alone a professional level. That is in the smallest of percentages. The majority gain the lessons sports provides.

Sports is really good in preparing girls for the adult competitive business world. I believe there is a direct result from understanding the competitive mindset and the discipline/work ethic necessary to balancing the demands of sports and all academic demands. You have to believe if a person can perform at a high level going 70 hours per week in school/sports, they can probably handle the stress/time in the business world.  Simplistically it seems like just changing one uniform for another.

Title IX is celebrating its 40th anniversary.

Participation numbers for women in college and high school athletics are at an all-time high. I believe the greatest legacy of Title 9 is that there is a generation of young women growing up strong and self assured because of their participation in sports.

A generation for whom sports is so ingrained in their lives, they cannot even envision simply standing on the sidelines. And as far as life lessons go … a legacy of a generation of young women who don’t believe they should be on the sidelines … for anything.

Here is an interesting factoid.

Nowhere in Title IX will you see the word ‘sports.’ It is an education initiative … in which sports benefited.

“No person in the United States shall, on the basis of sex, be excluded from participation in, be denied the benefits of, or be subjected to discrimination under any education program or activity receiving federal financial assistance” – Title IX

Title 9 was initiated at a time when women earned 9 percent of all medical degrees and just 7 percent of law degrees. Supporters were simply hoping to provide more opportunities for women in higher education, give them a better shot at higher-paying jobs … an attempt to balance out the inequality in higher education. Therefore, just as academics and financial aid fell under the broad definition of “education program” so did athletics. A truth? “You learn about yourself and the world through sport.” (Angela Ruggiero)

So.

Once given the opportunity women’s sports began thriving.

Before Title IX, fewer than 300,000 high school girls – one in 27 – played sports; there were less than 32,000 female athletes at the collegiate level. By 1974, just two years after the passage of Title IX, the number of high schoolers participating in sports had skyrocketed to 1.3 million.

Now more than 3 million high school girls – one in two – play sports. More than 191,000 females played NCAA sports in 2010-11. And unlike their mothers or grandmothers, who were often limited to basketball and softball if they did get a chance to play, women are now participating in everything from squash to skiing, rugby to wrestling.

Some research facts:

-          female athletes do better in school and have higher graduation rates. White female athletes had a 74 percent graduation rate compared with 68 percent for the overall student body, according to the most recent federal government calculations. The graduation rate for black female athletes was 66 percent, compared with just 46 percent in the overall student population.

-          A 2002 study found that 82 percent of female business executives had played organized sports after elementary school.

-          Female athletes are also less likely to smoke, use drugs or be suicidal.

Beyond numbers I believe there are some massive intangible benefits.

Self confidence.

Time management.

Self esteem.

Socialization.

(insert your own here)

Ok.

And beyond women, girls, how about the affect on the male population?

Boys have grown up watching sisters, friends, classmates, even their mothers play sports. They aren’t female athletes anymore but rather just athletes. There is a mutual respect and understanding and … well … sense of equality. In simplistic terms boys don’t really care she’s a girl … they just know she can play … she’s ‘got game’.

Ok. In the end?

It is all about equal opportunity … on the field and off the field.

It is about the lessons and attitudes that are learned on the field … and applied off the field.

The fact that the life lessons apply everywhere to everyone.

It’s about educating our children to the best of their abilities.

To finish this post here are the lyrics to the song I would have used … which would be nice for any tween young woman to remind herself with.

Tell Yourself Lyrics:

Tell yourself that you’re not pretty

look at you, you’re beautiful.

tell yourself that no one sees

Plain Jane invisible me, just tell yourself

Tell yourself you’ll never be

like the anorexic beauties in the magazines

just a bargain basement Barbie Doll

no belle du jour, no femme fatale

just tell yourself

Tell yourself there’s nothing worse

than the pain inside and the way it hurts

but tell yourself it’s nothing new

cause everybody feels it too

they feel it too

And there’s just no getting ’round

the fact that you’re thirteen right now

time management

August 6th, 2010

So. This is time management according to I Love Lucy.

Ok.

Who would have ever thought I would be using Lucy from I love Lucy to make a point? (certainly not me)

Ok.

Seriously. Who would have thought anyone would be using I Love Lucy to make a point.

Lucy: I drew in an extra hour at the bottom of the chart.
Ethel: Where did you get the extra hour?
Lucy: From the next day.
Ethel: From the next day?
Lucy: Yeah, It’ll work out fine till the end of the year and then I’ll be two weeks short.

It used to be that time management was a business issue. Constantly assessing how effectively people were using their time and how could we be “more productive” within the “8 hour day.”

But.

Now time management discussions are a personal life issue. It is all about how we can be more productive in a 24 hour day. Seminars. Experts. Websites. I need a time management course on making time for all the time management tips.

Lucy didn’t need an expert.

Lucy simply steals an hour from the next day.

And, oddly enough, she was ahead of her time.

This is truth to many in today’s world.

People steal hours from other days. One hour less sleep.

Stay up past midnight doing stuff. Work if you want to get ahead. Laundry if you are a single mom. Your own project if you aspire to do something else.

And while life isn’t as compartmentalized as “the end of the year” if you look around at the end of the year you will have lost 2 weeks. If not more.

And you cannot get them back. Time is disposable space. Once gone it is gone forever.

Okay.

Sure.

Someone is gonna argue you got something material back from that lost time.  But I would argue most of us don’t.

We use that extra hour in the day mostly to “maintain” not “gain.”

That is not a slam on anyone.

That is simply an observation of life today.

I guess I find it funny that we talk so much about the stress of today’s world yet Lucy (in the 1950′s) addressed the same issue.

Anyway.

Do I have a solution? Nope.

How can I? This seems to be an eternal issue (if you believe I Love Lucy).

Maybe my point is we stress out over having enough time and yet if you believe this quote it is something everyone has struggled with forever and we still haven’t found a solution (despite all the time management seminars and time management experts).

Maybe it would be healthier for us to get done what we can get done.

And not steal hours from other days (or let’s say “minimize stealing hours from other days).

Easier said than done? Probably.

But, c’mon.

I would imagine I used an I Love Lucy quote to humorously point out the silly extremes we put stress into our lives all with the intent to be ‘more productive.’

At some point you just have to be as productive as you can be and let the rest of the world live with that.

Thanks Lucy.

Getting Ahead means Being Ahead

May 21st, 2010

So. It seem like I have been visiting a lot of 20something blogs lately seeking good writing and thinking. And there is a lot out there.  I guess as the tradeoff is I get asked some questions as they try to understand the work world (because I am certainly not qualified to explain the social and personal world).

Here’s is the big one it seems (and I faced this question a lot from the junior members of any organization u have worked within).

How can I get ahead when I have so much to do I can barely keep my head above water?

With companies getting leaner all employees are getting stretched on the “to do” list but inevitably the less experienced (and hence less senior) people get dumped (delegated) the entire task oriented “to do” things. And, to be clear, this happens typically not because senior people are not capable of doing them and nor, in most cases, are they against doing all the ‘to do’ tasks they could take on, but rather there is more pressure on senior people to “get it right the first” than ever before. Therefore it’s kind of like making sure your best member of your team has the energy and focus to get it done when it needs to get done (ok. some younger people are gonna argue that the senior person in question is “not the best member of the team” and they may be correct but, like a pendulum, if that senior person isn’t as efficient as they can be the remainder of the organization suffers .. so just suck it up and make the c+ senior team member as good as they can be ..)

Anyway. This post isn’t about whether a senior person is good or not this post is about getting ahead.getting ahead being ahead

So. Junior people (or less experienced people looking to move ahead in an organization) have a combination of major challenges to ‘get ahead’ in their career (and they are like dominos to their ‘getting ahead’ goal):

  1. Just getting all the shit done
  2. Managing perceptions of how you are getting the shit done
  3. Finding time to do the things over and above the shit to stand out

First. Getting all the shit done.

Accept the fact you cannot get it all done all the time.

No one can. And, in fact, no one has. It’s all about getting done what can be done great  … great. And then. Getting what can just be done  … done. (and learning the difference between these two things is an art and will take some trial & error to get right). That is about the only way you can get all the shit done and make sure some of the shit gets done great so it doesn’t look like you don’t recognize just done from great.

This may be contrary to some advice you get. Some managers say “I want everything to be A+ output.”

Well. Frankly. That is silly. I say “if you are going to do it make sure you do it right.”

Semantics? Possibly.

Big difference? Absolutely.

Keep in mind.

Details should always be A+ effort (spelling, punctuation, make sure your cut & pastes make sense, crap like that).

Quality of information (or depth) can vary between C+ and A+.

Format delivery can vary between C+ and A+. The simpler you deliver the information the more likely there is no confusion the faster the shit gets through the goose. Kind of a simple rule.

Lastly. Remember. There is a correlation between time and expectations (this is a HUGE thing in the next point but relevant in just getting shit done). The faster you get shit done right the lower the expectations on how the shit gets shared/delivered. For example, if someone asks for something and you deliver it within an hour how it looks is a boatload less important than if you wait two days (and that is also true on the depth of the information).

Oh. One more lastly. This one is truly frustrating to junior people. The reason why it really really helps to turn around things quickly is because sometimes the senior person doesn’t know exactly what they want (hey. you don’t know what you don’t know.) so if you turn something around quickly with brevity you probably have a better than 50% chance that you will get the infamous (and desired) “thanks, just what I needed.”

Second. Managing perceptions (about getting shit done and getting ahead of the shit)

Getting ahead doesn’t mean you have to be ahead of your boss. In fact … if you try … you will find you can’t (particularly if you have good senior people around you) and will just get frustrated. All you will do is lose (because you will have invested so much energy trying to always be ahead of the senior person you wont have gotten all the shit done).

So what do you do to get ahead?

Get ahead in the process. Get ahead of the “so where are we on that project” follow up question.

Every boss has a rhythm. Figure it out. Senior people don’t mind less experienced people being responsive (and doing) to initial ideas. They don’t expect less senior people to have many ideas. What they do find aggravating is always feeling like they have to continuously stimulate progress on an idea/project after the project has been initiated (by the way this could simply be perception or reality  … doesn’t matter). So this is where the rhythm comes in to play. All you have to do is beat the boss to the question. If you do they will at least feel you are ahead. If they feel you are ahead you will be ahead.

Oh. When in doubt recognize that with lack of information (or silence) a senior person will assume nothing is happening. And then asking the follow up question only feeds that perception (regardless of what your answer is). Just keep it in mind.

Lastly. Back to the Time versus Expectations continuum. The longer you wait to deliver a result the higher the expectations in depth and delivery form of the result response. Oh. And this is not a straight line continuum. It is like a ski slope upwards. Expectations gain momentum with time.

Third. Beyond getting the shit done and then choosing your opportunities to be ahead at the right times.

This is a follow up to the “many ideas” thought. As noted earlier senior people don’t expect less experienced people to have many ideas. However, they do expect you to have some initial ideas (not on how to improve process but an actual “idea”) so they can feel like they can take a mental break with you every once in awhile and they have an opportunity to actually respond instead of creating the stimulus. So. You need to find a spot or two to have an idea and be ahead of either your peers (because then at least you are not a parity employee) or be ahead of the senior person with an idea (harder to do but worth trying every once in awhile).

Unless you have a goofball for a boss or senior person this issue is never about quantity at a less experienced level, it is about quality. If you want to move ahead you do have to contribute some new thinking or proof that you can do something more than “doing.” Pick your moments and contribute an idea or two. The more successful you are at it the more likely senior people will figure out how to alleviate some of your doing and give you more thinking type projects. But you have to earn that decision on their part.

There you go.

So getting ahead doesn’t mean being ahead all the time. In fact at some point in your career you are “following” (an idea) but you can “lead the charge” on the implementation or the “doing” of the idea.

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