unapologetically comfortable with yourself

 reminder-unapologetic

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when youre unapologetically comfortable with yourself, people really dont know what to do with you.

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from monochromaticblack

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people get mad when they don’t understand the source of someone else’s confidence. lol thats wild.

from monochromaticblack

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Well.

projects-complete-finish-progress-businessI loved both of these thoughts written by a young African <Nigeria I believe> woman on her tumblr site.

I love them because they do not mean you don’t want to improve <in fact most of these people acknowledge they are work in progress which actually is the foundation for their confidence and comfort with self>, but rather espouse a strong belief in self – or being comfortable in your own skin.

I say that, yet, most people see these things as cocky or not willing to listen or be accepting constructive criticism.

They are wrong.

It is just a reflection of a strong self-awareness. And an awareness of what is going on around them. And a willingness to adapt to the situation at hand <therefore each situation aligns with the appropriate confidence rather than trying to stay a square peg and face a round hole on occasion>.

To me … this type of discussion around self awareness driven confidence is almost like discussing the difference between the actually appropriate “I couldn’t care less” versus the more common less appropriate phrase “I could care less.”

They clearly mean different things and, yet, misused so often they are misheard and misinterpreted. But … about the self awareness the quotes suggest.like-thought-bubble

 

I like the stubborn kind of love of thyself.

I like the semi-unconditional love of who and what you are.

I like the persistency and acceptance of the undeniable compass that resides within.

I like the understanding and almost commanding hold this belief has on someone’s character and behavior and attitudes.

I like the fact it leaves someone nowhere to go and, yet, at the same time enables the ability to embrace some type of expanded self.

I like the sense that this is a different type of self love which one can never escape no matter how hard you may try <because Life suggests you should ‘escape it’>.

I like the thought that it remains a version of a good friend to rely on regardless of the time of day, situation or crisis.

I like the fact it suggests a version of ‘home’ regardless of how far you may be tempted to stray.

I like it represents a source of healing from which one can replenish who and what you are … no matter what happens.

I like the sense of true companionship strength <thru thick or thin>.

unapologetic-false-world-real-person-pain-lifeI like the unapologetic faith in head, heart & humanity.

I like the … well … consistency … and the flexibility. I call it a consistent flexible personality.

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The individual has always had to struggle to keep from being overwhelmed by the tribe.

If you try it, you will be lonely often, and sometimes frightened. But no price is too high to pay for the privilege of owning yourself.

Friedrich Nietzsche

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I like the idea someone can change innumerable times, yet in each iteration, will remain fundamentally the same.

I like the idea that the personality & character doesn’t change for, basically, functional reasons.

I like the idea it maintains the attitude of ‘the self’ and continuing to change, constantly aligning itself to changing world and what it learns.

And, I imagine, what I like most is that this type of self-confidence and belief in self insures that no matter how often Life and the shit it throws at you tries to put an end to its existence … you exist.unapologetic-power-go-on-scared-life

The dictionary tells us you cannot ‘put an end to the existence of something’ more than a single time. I would argue with the dictionary <which is surprising because I like unequivocal truths>. Life can, and does, put an end to the existence of lots of ‘self’ things. Sometimes for good, but more often for the bad.

All I would say is that if you are unapologetically comfortable with yourself you are more likely to insure the existence of what matters and put an end to the existence of that which does not matter when it matters.

People may not know what to do with you, but you will always know what you can do.

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