So. In business I am a self proclaimed renovator. That means I like to fix thing.
This also means I cannot build shit from scratch.
For me it’s all about improving and/or fixing. Interestingly I have a small group of friends who are fixers (while meeting a variety of business people over the years I haven’t really met many what I would call true fixers). I don’t believe the ‘fixer’ ability is really that unique nor special nor even that it takes excessive intellectual capacity but I believe the true fixers remain a relatively small group because there is an inherent slightly warped perspective <I will get back to that>.
I just talked to one about her job <and quitting it>.
And we spent some time talking about fixing … and what if we couldn’t actually fix something.
Now. This is a quasi-epiphany like discussion.
Because fixers believe they can fix anything.
It doesn’t matter … whatever needs fixing we believe it can not only be fixed but that we can fix it. And I truly mean whatever.
We aggravate a lot of people (who aren’t fixer personalities).
Because we are also pragmatic respectful-cynical optimists.
To believe anything can be fixed you have to have gobs of optimism. Relentless optimism. This isn’t ego. This is simply belief that nothing cannot be fixed.
Ah. But there is equal amount of pragmatism. Because you also have to be practical, logical and ruthless with regard to tearing apart whatever needs to be fixed to put it back together so it is fixed.
And those two characteristics bookend respectful cynicism.
A fixer is cynical, and respectful, of every component and part and piece and person of that which they are fixing. A good fixer recognizes parts need to be fixed to completely heal the whole. Ah. But some parts don’t need to be fixed. Just reconfigured with the new fixed parts. Therefore a fixer is cynical of all that has come before and currently is … while at the exact same time respectful of all pieces and parts. Rarely does a fixer find what needs to be fixed was created by a blithering idiot. Business is strewn with brilliant people being asked to do things beyond their own brilliance. The odds are you are fixing some unintentional consequence rather than some intended misguided behavior.
Respect that which is.
Be cynical of what is.
A fixer dances this dance better than a winner on dancing with the stars.
Beyond the personal fortitude and characteristics … fixers eventually need help (although it pains them to admit … oh … and the recognition typically only comes with some maturity).
Fixers never blame anyone else when things don’t get fixed- only themselves. It comes along with the whole “able to fix anything” mentality. It is a reflection of the personal responsibility to fix.
Anyway. The recognition of need for help is important <which is why you don’t see a lot of older fixers … not recognizing the help factor affects mortality rate>.
Because although you get better at assessing “fixability” with time and experience once you are actually in the ‘fix game’ the focus is (laser like) is on fixing. And if you don’t have someone else around to clean up behind you or maybe cover your flanks it can get dangerously blinding toward the end game (without regard for an escape path).
Let me take something back. We don’t aggravate most people. Most people just don’t like us. Regardless.
If you accept the optimism and pragmatism and respectful cynicism then you will understand this next thought. This means we will go as deep into the hole for as long as it takes to fix the innards. And keep going and stay until it is fixed.
There is an inherent danger in this. In fact. Lots of fixers die down in the hole. They just get sucked so far into the black of the hole they cannot see the way out. And worse, the imaginable, what if we can’t fix it? We often don’t know when to try and stop fixing (a by product of the fact we just cannot believe it can’t be fixed).
When my friend and I talked we laughed (a little uneasily) about the unfixable to fixers. Admitting something cannot be fixed to a fixer rocks the foundation of everything we stand for. How do we deal with it (so we don’t spontaneously combust)?
Well. First. We justify things by saying “we cannot fix it ourselves” (we need others to be aligned). And in many cases this is actually true. We share this thinking grudgingly. True fixers believe all you really have to do is to show the way and others will inevitably recognize “the way” and will follow your lead (doesn’t have to be true following it can simply be replicating desired behavior). Why did I make that point? True fixers like to lead but that isn’t what they are all about. Its about …well … fixing. Anyway. The truth is that some things cannot be fixed solely by a fixer.
Second. As we gain experience and face fixing problems with significantly more depth and breadth we recognize there are truly aspects of “alignment” necessary to make the “fix” work. And therefore seniority, titles and responsibility are a means to an end. Most fixers would accept the title of “waste management apprentice” as long as limitless responsibility was attached to it. Fixers don’t attach self worth/esteem/actualization on titles or money but rather the ‘fix.’
I say all this because the big discussion with my friend was on a counter offer when faced with her resignation (note: Now. I admit. I am not a counteroffer fan – as a giver or receiver … I kind of feel it is a lose/lose deal. Well. Both may win short term -employee stays and gets what they deserved in the first place- but long term the employer is unhappy they were forced to do something and employee is aggravated they had to force their hand … anyway …).
But the big discussion centered around “is what they are offering going to enable you to fix” as well as “would anything be able to fix” and finally “what should you outline as your ‘if I were to stay here is the only scenario’ counteroffer.”
All with an eye toward the fixer nirvana … fixing something. And we had the incredibly difficult moment as we reached an “I don’t think you can fix it discussion.”
She didn’t like to hear it.
And if I wasn’t a fixer (talking to another fixer) I am not sure she would have really listened.
Yet. In the end we both agreed no counteroffer was not worth considering unless it enabled the ultimate source of the resignation impetus – the inability to fix.
I wrote this for a couple of reasons.
- Self-reflection as a fixer-renovator.
Strengths (or maybe not a strength but rather simply ‘what you do’) follows the general rule in life … balance. Because whatever it is that you do … it comes at the expense of something else. It is silly, if not foolish, to believe you are good at everything or the thing you are good at makes everything else unimportant. As with everything in life it is all about tradeoffs. I tend to believe that is why there is a relatively small circle of fixers. As with anything not many people are willing to sacrifice some pretty important things to focus on a specialty like fixing (which can come at a fairly high cost).
I imagine I like writing about focus and recognition of what you really like to do … and the good and bad that comes along with such a recognition. I am a really really lucky man (ok … possibly just an overgrown boy). I know what I am in business (not sure I know in everyday life … still perpetually learning).
The good and the bad. And the risks that come along with the rewards.
And I admit that I was really fortunate as I passed through middle management.
I always had someone who would send me down the rabbit hole and let me go as deep into the dark as needed and make sure that I never got too lost in the dark as well they also “fixed” (or enabled) some of the really necessary ancillary stuff so I could fix. And, in hindsight, they also had the ability to recognize what could be fixed was fixed and pulled me out before I killed myself on the unfixable <note: not everyone is as fortunate>.
But. And this is a big but.
I am a fixer through and through. Even now.
Even though I know some things are so dysfunctional they cannot be solved by me my initial thought is always … it can be fixed and I can fix it. And I am no different than other fixers.
I say that last point just to say … despite the fact I am relatively aware of all this I am not sure it makes anything easier in the end.
Other than the fact I have drawn a clear line in the sand with regard to what I will do and won’t do … and what I will compromise and what I won’t.
I hope that is a good thing. It may not be but it is a decision I am okay with.