what makes someone tick

“I loathe the expression “what makes him tick.” It is the American mind, looking for simple and singular solution that uses the foolish expression. A person not only ticks, he also chimes and strikes the hour, falls and breaks and has to be put together again and sometimes stops like an electric clock in a thunderstorm.”

I have no idea who wrote/said this but if I did I would send an email and simply say “amen.”

In fact, if I actually had a file called “absurd thoughts” this thought would be in it right next to that other incredibly <relenat to this post> absurd thought “there are left brain & right brain people.”

I loathe the expression ‘what makes him tick.’

People are complex. Heck. Most of the people I personally know are. And I know I am. And I know I get aggravated when someone simplifies me into some soundbite ‘what makes him tick.’

And I cannot envision that I am that different than others in this regard.

I am going to use a harsh phrase to make a point but “dumbing down” a person in this way is … well … dumb if not completely absurd. Sure. I know people like something simple to hold onto but this is crazy.

I throw it into the same category as when someone says “what is it that you want?” <when discussing life>.

Shit.

How long do you have <when trying to answer that question>?

In a world that wants simplicity some things just are not that simple.

Yeah, yeah, yeah. I know. All the ‘self help’ books outline goals and attainable milestones and all the steps you can take to be happier and successful and a better person and all that crap. And those same books are expounding on the fact that to be happier there are priorities. and, yes, I would agree on priorities I just hesitate a little <okay … a lot> when someone says “name one” or “the most important.”

Happiness is just not that simple.

Just as what makes someone tick is not simple.

Ok.

So the point behind this post – beyond the fact I loved the quote – is that we need to be careful when we try and encapsulate a person in a nutshell.

Ambitious.

Smart.

Right brain.

Extroverted.

Money.

Mean.

Kind.

They are all big powerful words that people like to attach to other people. And then they stop <at that word>. I have one word for that. No.

People, well, … just .. can .. not .. be .. summed .. up .. in .. one .. word.

Yup. People are much bigger than one word <sorry … that is an obvious thought>.

Regardless. Just be careful.

In a complex world it is easy to try and simplify things for selfish reasons <we only have so much space in our pea like brains>.  But if there was one place I would suggest we would permit complexity to remain it would be with regard to how we assess, and ultimately judge <which we should all admit we do regardless of how bad it sounds> and treat people.

Simplicity certainly has its place in the world, and, in fact, I believe it should have a more important role in every day life <and business> … just not when it comes to the complexity of people, personalities & characterizing.