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“There’s nothing like eavesdropping to show you that the world outside your head is different from the world inside your head.”

Thornton Wilder

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Well. There are a couple of things to think about with this quote.

–      What we think is not always what everyone thinks

This sounds basic. But, boy oh boy, we forget this – all the frickin’ time. In fact not only do we forget it we actually do so while remembering it.

Huh? What do I mean?

Well, c’mon, how often have you sat there and said ‘no one has been thru what I have been thru and can understand this’ or ‘no one understands how I think’ and, yet, when we look around and assess what people are doing <and thinking> we sit back and go ‘whew, I bet they’re thinking this …’

It’s kind of crazy.

It’s kind of hypocritical.

Suffice it to say whether you think you are normal or think you are abnormal what is happening inside your head is very often different than what is happening in the outside world. In other words … it is very very likely what you think is not what everyone thinks.

Next.

–      We should listen more

In business, in personal life, does not matter; we should just listen <without preconceived filters> more often.

I am fairly sure that it was Henry Miller who said “the street howls with the truth.”

Smart man.

Listen to the howls.

So let me share some observations for business.

I am an avid trend watcher, people watcher and behavior studier. I listen by watching. People give you massive cues <clues?> as to what they are thinking and why they do the things they do. You just have to listen to the music of their Life and find the beat of their individual drum. I say that because far <far> too many business people say “we need to do consumer research and hear what people say.”

Well.

You may.

But you may not have to.

In fact. Even if you do the research, if you are not a good listener, every dollar you spend on that research is wasted.

Regardless. Listening isn’t just with your ears, it is also with your nose and eyes and all your feelings.

People’s lives talk.

You may not understand the language immediately, but if you listen closely … really closely … you will understand.

Why is it so hard? Why do you have to listen so closely?

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“I do not think I’m easy to define. I have a wandering mind.

And I’m not anything that you think I am. “

Syd Barrett

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People are not easy to define. Most people are difficult to ‘slot.’

Yup.

Sorry about that.

I feel especially sorry for the people who think they are good at assessing people. The majority of them are, well, not. At best they are simply good judges of their own bias.

Anyway. We desperately WANT to slot and segment and cluster people because it makes it easier for us. But as soon as you do you stop listening. Yeah. That bias filter thing again.

Shit.

All I really know is that we need to listen more. There is nothing better for you than eavesdropping on the world on occasion. Ponder.

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“Good ideas come with a heavy burden; which is why so few people execute them. Few people can handle it.“

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Hugh MacLeod

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There are more good ideas than we know about. Good ideas, or the nugget of a good idea or a derivative <that could become a good idea> are scattered everywhere. You just need to listen closely and you will find a good idea every day <assuming you listen to enough people>.

But.

Hugh is absolutely correct in that few people accept the burden that comes with a good idea.

Good ideas are tough in two ways <okay, more but I will focus on two>.

First may seem contradictory to what I wrote at the beginning, but I am really qualifying what I stated.

There are a lot of good ideas, but the really good ideas are rare.

To clarify, by rare good ideas I mean the really meaningful ones. The ones that make an impact. The ones that make a difference. The ones that make people sit up and pay attention. Ideas are a dime a dozen and listening to them is like mental masturbation. But meaningful ideas make you sit up and think “well, this is the real thing.”

Which leads me to the second thought.

Getting people to sit up and pay attention (or listen).

Well. When people pay attention, and listen attentively, to a good idea they will challenge and debate and skewer <even if it doesn’t deserve skewering>. They do this because “meaningful” means, well, it means something to people – enough that they care about how it may impact them as an individual. 

Look.

The burden of a good idea is never (really) in coming up with it.

This is just a guess, but I bet there are more good ideas sitting in someone’s drawer <or a bunch of people’s drawers> then have ever been done let alone made public. There are more good ideas than we have time to actually do.

The real burden is in vocalizing, defending and figuring out how to implement. And not many people can handle that burden. They don’t, or can’t, because meaningful ideas are not flippant, they take work. They have depth and dimensions and to defend them you need to be able to not only articulate the depths and dimensions, but even defend the some vague outlines of parts (vagueness always exists with meaningful ideas because they tend to be ‘future value’ type ideas and, well, the future is not predictable).

And Hugh suggests few people can handle it.

I tell kids all the time that they are our future, well, only if they actually accept the burden of our future. So often those who are being asked to accept the responsibility of the future complain about those in the past <or they even resent those in the past> with regard to them shirking responsibility. Yeah. There is a lot of finger pointing that goes on with regard to ideas and the future.

Well. I have a bunch of things to say to that, but suffice it to say I will simply say “nuts.”

Nuts to all that crap.

Ideas are of the present and the future. Lingering in the past is simply a way to avoid the burden that comes along with an idea.

If you have an idea … good … share it.

If you have an idea and you want it to actually happen … good … do it.

Good ideas are a burden.

And it is the people who do not recognize that which will consistently fall into the ‘dreamer’ category. Meandering through life coming up with ideas and wondering <and sometimes bitching> about why no one does these ideas they are thinking about and talking about. These are the people who give dreaming a bad name.

And then there are the people who take on the burden. The ones who have ideas and actually scratch and claw and fight through all the negativity and doubters to make it happen. They wrangle not only with people but with words. They are the ones who embrace storytelling as a tool to create  a narrative around their idea (Carse), or embrace metaphors (Lackoff), or simply become lovers of words themselves as symbolic tools (Symbolic Species).

Oh.

Here is where the deal gets tricky.

Not everyone who has an idea and fights for it has a good idea. I will not call them snake oil salesmen, but they certainly do have some of the same characteristics. Some truly have good intent, but even with good intentions they are out trying to sell you a bunch of “Why” and not “What” and a why without a great what is a bunch of nothing.

If you can ever convince that person that their idea sucks <or is just not that good>, but then you steer them towards a good idea … well … you are in the gold.

Because the people who accept the burden are valuable commodities. It takes a special person. And it is foolish of us to simply disregard those who accept the burden and yet have a bad idea as fools or dreamers or, well, not worth paying attention to.

Because they have a skill.

They are strong enough for the burden. And let me tell ya folks … not everyone has the strength to do that. So when we chastise or joke about those people <simply because the idea maybe even be a little nutty rather than ‘not so good’> we shouldn’t. We should be seeking opportunities to utilize those people’s strengths. In other words, transition them from snake oil salesmen to idea narrators.

Regardless. I am 100% confident that there are a gazillion good ideas sitting out there in the homes of people who just do not want the burden of a good idea.

Hugh is correct.

It is a separate post, but a HUGE issue is the fact most people cannot tell the difference between a good idea and shitty idea or even a mediocre <already done> idea.

But. In the end?

Hugh is correct.

Most people cannot handle the burden of a good idea.

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“I have no ideas, only obsessions.

Anybody can have ideas.

Ideas have never caused anybody’s downfall.”

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Emil Cioran

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I just saw this quote.

I loved it.

What a frickin’ awesome thought.

Especially in today’s world where we talk ad nausea about how anyone can have a ‘good idea.’

Truth?

Not all ideas are created equal.

Truth?

Not all people can come up with good ideas.

The quote suggests an injection of energy and passion and ‘belief’ into an idea … to make it something other than just an … well … idea.

Why is this important?

Because so often we sit in meetings and brainstorm and flippantly toss out ideas. And they are … well … just ideas.

Hollow? Maybe not completely.

Flat? Possibly.

Deep? Rarely … mostly created from some individualistic opinion or belief.

Obsession? Extremely rare.

And that is what differentiates ideas. The depth. There is an obsessive aspect to a great meaningful idea.

Sure.

People can obsess over an idea … and that idea can be crappy.

But if an idea generates obsession among people ?? … yikes. That is a frickin’ good idea.

What a great thought … “Ideas have never caused anybody’s downfall.”

An idea empty of some obsession qualities ain’t gonna rock the world.

And I imagine that is my point.

There are ideas.

And then there are ideas that change us <which means we have an opportunity to change the world>.

Uhm.

Unfortunately … these types of ideas come with a responsibility … a burden as a matter of fact. And not all people are capable of accepting this burden and not all people WANT to assume the responsibility of these types of ideas.

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<a 2012 post about the burden of good ideas:

https://brucemctague.com/the-burden-of-good-ideas   >

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To finish up … I will end where I began.

There are ideas you don’t love with ease … you love with passion.

Some of us desire these types of ideas.

And we obsess over them.