“Fate is like a strange, unpopular restaurant filled with odd little waiters who bring you things you never asked for and don’t always like.”
I wrote thoughts on fate on sept. 22nd 2013 in a post called ‘seize fate’:
I mention that post because I used what Beethoven actually said … “I shall seize fate by the throat.”
That means Beethoven would have strangled a shitload of odd little waiters.
It’s easy to think of Fate as odd little waiters as some strange unknown people guiding our direction in life … often by giving us the unasked for dishes.
I like the thought that we have some destiny … some fate … awaiting us.
That there is some reason for being here.
The struggle I imagine I have in my head with regard to this whole Fate and having odd little waiters bringing my fate to me is … well … that I like doing … and not waiting.
And the thought of permitting something theoretical like ‘fate’ or ‘destiny’ to take me by the hand and lead me somewhere doesn’t sit well with me.
And I also imagine that part of Life is figuring all this shit out.
Fate is a combination of reacting <to circumstances thrust upon you like dishes you never ordered> and being proactive <thrusting yourself into and against circumstances>.
This also suggests the ability in shifting the course of things.
Whenever people attempt to shift the course of things … things can go horribly wrong.
But doing nothing … and not making the attempt?
Fate is more than assuming history … or what will be … has a shape.
Fate actually assumes in some way you have a role in shaping it.
“Fate makes demands of flesh and blood.
And what does it most often demand?
Flesh and blood.”
And this means meeting the dreams of fate … flesh & blood … or what is called ‘Kairos.’
Kairos is the ability to adapt to and take advantage of changing circumstances.
The concept suggests you can manage what fate has in store for you if you manage the circumstances as they arise.
This also suggests that fate has a whole kitchen of possible dishes to serve you … not just one. And depending on what you do and how you act and what you say … the odd little waiter may end up bringing you something other than what it thought it was going to bring you a moment ago.
Not really that ‘fate favors the brave’ but rather having the audacity to believe in this wild and wacky and somewhat chaotic world … you can actually have a say in your fate.
This also means that even if you balk at the concept of ‘being bold’ … suffice it to say that fate favors those who actually show up:
Interestingly … it was JK Rowling who said something along the same lines …
“Destiny is a name often given in retrospect to choices that had dramatic consequences.”
Showing up is what it is all about.
It seems almost weird to even suggest this … but … simply showing up can have dramatic consequences.
Even something as unspectacular as ‘showing up’ can be a choice which has dramatic consequences to your destiny.
We think of fate when looking in a rear view mirror.
And often we do so without thinking about the choices … and the choices WE made … led us to the place where we saw what we saw in that rear view mirror.
And I imagine we rarely think about showing up as a key choice with some dramatic consequences.
You know … I imagine we all have to believe in some way we are here for a reason.
And that is where Fate or Destiny resides.
Somewhere in that ever elusive ‘reason.’
What do I mean?
Fate and destiny are the end accomplishment.
But it’s kind of up to you to figure out what that destination is.
Unfortunately fate or destiny … well … they tend to be quiet fellows <or women>.
They tend to keep their thoughts to themselves.
They have a tendency to hide so you can’t sit them down and say ‘what is my fate?’ … ‘what is my destiny?’ … ‘tell me where to go’.
That makes life a little tricky because it makes some really important shit unable to be seen. So you have to make some guesses. Or maybe we should call it some ‘leaps of faith.’
I read somewhere there is the seen and the unseen.
That not all is certainty in the world because if there were … there would be no opportunity for faith.
In other words … there would never be any opportunities for a ‘leap of faith.’
Certainty sounds pretty frickin’ nice … but … it would also seem to be a pretty dull world without that ‘faith.’
<at least in my eyes>
Sometimes you kind of have to reach out … either with faith … or maybe out of sheer frustration … and grab one of the odd little waiters by the throat and say ‘here is my fate … this is my destiny … now go back to the kitchen and return this frickin’ dish.”’
So, in the end, maybe Fate sometimes does need to be seized by the throat.
“I shall seize an odd little waiter by the throat and order my fate.”
In the end.
I cannot suggest nor guarantee that all choices will be good or even guide you well … but making choices at least means your fate is a little less in the hands of some odd little waiters serving you things you haven’t ordered.
note: I also wrote this: http://brucemctague.com/coincidence-and-fate