“Your opportunity is going to come whenever it comes.
You have to take advantage of it when it does.”
“But, my dear, how long will you wait for something that will never come?”
Yeah. What happens if you blink at the wrong time in Life?
Life, in general, doesn’t permit blinking.
Okay. It is relentlessly unforgiving if you blink at the wrong time.
Simplistically, Life happens … even if you are not paying attention. Shit. Life happens even if you ARE paying attention … and you blink.
Sadly … far too often we blink at just the wrong moment.
Sometimes it is because we … well … just have other shit to do.
Sometimes it is because we … well … we are just a dumbass
Sometimes it is because … well … that is just reality <sometimes>.
And, sometimes, well, it doesn’t really matter.
Opportunities are like pebbles.
If you throw a pebble into a pond, you have no way of predicting exact way the ripples will … well … ripple <unless you are some mathematics professor at Harvard where you could probably extrapolate it … uhm … but the window of opportunity would most likely close anyway … before you figured it out>.
Ripples depends on how you drop, or throw, or skip the pebble. Shit. Ripples depend on if some other asshole drops a pebble, stone or clod of mud in the frickin’ pond.
“How can I begin anything new with all of yesterday in me?”
Some blinks are … well … blinks. You just cannot keep your eyes open all the time.
And then there are hesitation blinks.
The ones created by the ‘all of yesterday in me.’
Sometimes we blink because the present is a pretty cluttered moment for everyone. Maximizing your present … the “now” … is hard. Fucking hard. Anyone who suggests it is easy or ‘you should try and do it more’ is … well … fucking crazy.
All that clutter can make us blink.
And sometimes, yes, it makes us blink at exactly the wrong time.
Not only is ‘the present’ small but windows of opportunity within ‘the present’ can open and close pretty fucking fast.
And all of that just gets even smaller when squeezed by past and future.
And then you start trying to cram in all the tangible shit you need to do <as well as the things you don’t really need to do but have convinced yourself it is ‘need’>.
Yeah. You blink. Uh oh. And the ‘present’ has completely disappeared.
While it makes my head hurt just typing this there is a reason I bring it up.
While I have written ad nausea about managing time in general and how we focus on the wrong shit <spending more time making lists than actually doing shit> I would suggest that if you want to manage your time more effectively you need to get your head out of the ‘past & future’ head game the best you can.
If you do that effectively than you have … well … effectively maximized your present time the best you can.
In blinking terms … this means you have narrowed your blinks to natural blinking versus hesitation blinking.
This type of decision on your part really can make a difference.
Moments, ‘things’, feelings, opportunities … the possibilities … die fast … like in the blink of an eye. In a blink of an eye what was possible simply disappears … and is no longer possible.
“In the blink of an eye, what was possible is possible no longer.”
You blink and what was possible is no longer even in view.
You blink and all the plans you had mapped out get crumpled up.
Blinking insures you either grasp the concept of adaptability … or you will inevitably grasp only disappointment an discouragement.
It’s nice to have plans, and even recommended in most situations, but when a plan doesn’t happen, you have to be able to think on your feet, and change courses if necessary. Life doesn’t always cooperate with what you wanted to do, so you have to be prepared.
We all know that if you aren’t paying attention to your own life, you are gonna miss some important things. Life does what it does whether you want it to or not.
It can seem fairly overwhelming if you dwell on a belief that every minute that passes is a minute that you will never get back or every opportunity you miss is an opportunity you will never get back.
“We don’t always get the luxury of having closure.
Sometimes things just end. There’s not always a rhyme or reason for why they do, they just do.”
But that means you have to find some peace in blinking.
You need to find some peace in the fact that some opportunities are just missed.
You need to find peace in those the moments where you had got it right for yourself and not for anyone else <even if you did blink>.
Life is complex as it is.
And far too often we speak of opportunities in some simplistic fashion … and mostly from an individualistic point of view.
And therein lies the foundation of opportunities & complexity.
We live in a world of collaboration and anything but individual decision making.
Simplicity is being demanded by the whole and implemented by the parts. And aligning attitudes and desires is difficult. And so is insuring aligning in strengths in today’s idealistic view of collaboration.
And maybe that is where simplicity faces its most difficult contradiction – facing the conflict in aligning making bigness small <in vision for the whole> and capturing the importance, and bigness, of the small.
“Incredible change happens in your life when you decide to take control of what you do have power over instead of craving control over what you don’t.”
Simplistically <which is dangerous on this topic> opportunities truly are like windows. They open and close. When defined that simply … well … it is nice and tight and makes something big smaller and more easily grasped. But these less-than-simple windows are actually representative of something that looks more like a bow tie or an hourglass on its side.
Lots of complex things and thoughts funneling into this nice tight little window … and should you step through the window of opportunity … well … the vista of what could be, can be and will be widens to some pretty extraordinarily complex aspects.
In the end.
Maybe that is my bigger point about blinking and opportunities.
That window is always there.
That complex experience and stuff is always happening.
That complex vista beyond the window is always there and changing.
Whether you blink or not.
Control what you can.
Accept what you cannot control.
Don’t blink because of hesitation.
And accept that … well … you have to blink sometime.