Posts tagged truth
enlightened references
Apr 30th
Ok. This may actually be an example of social marketing <I sometimes get confused what social marketing is> especially if this idea works.
This will definitely be a social marketing experiment.
So. Just like asking for job references I am going to ask anyone who cares to explain why they read the drivel <and insightful commentaries> on my site to write a reference for the site on LinkedIn. Just visit www.linkedin.com and write a referral for the “Master of my own Domain” Enlightened Conflict position on my LinkedIn profile.
I assume I will get a sense of why people read my posts, hear the good and bad and, hopefully, encourage more people to come and visit Enlightened Conflict.
Thanks. Have fun with it if you decide to do it.
why we have sex (typically) indoors
Apr 28th
Well. Let’s chalk this one up as another example of “research has been done on everything.”
In addition to that … using research … every once in a while I like to enlighten people to some of the hazards in life so they can avoid them.
Here you go.
The hazard: Public sex can be extremely dangerous.
Oh.
The research: An Australian zoologist Darrell Kemp conducted a study that has confirmed the assumption that public sex can be dangerous to the lives of the lovers.
Ok.
I have to pause here.
“Confirmed the assumption.”
Huh? I never assumed having sex in public was dangerous … well … at least life endangering.
The study? Studying the process of Sphex wasps hunting the Australian locust <now THAT was a blast to type> he discovered that those locusts “in love” were attacked by predators more frequently.
Good news for us guys?
Females were much less lucky than males.
While researchers agree that sex is a healthful and pleasant exercise <thank god they agree on that>, they also suggest that few are aware of the fact that sex can also be very dangerous.
Quote: “Many predators prefer to hunt for those who, forgetting everything in the world, are selflessly engaged in procreation”.
While many biologists agree with this statement, until now, nearly no one tried to calculate what percentage of those who have sex may be caught by predators.
So it was up to this guy named Kemp who finally decided to answer the question everyone has been asking … and assessed the risk of death during sex using numbers.
The objects of his study were representatives of the Australian locust (Chortoicetes terminifera) and preying on them … the local wasp Sphex cognatus <think of the locust as lovers of outdoor sex and the local wasp as a predator>.
Oh. This is important.
It should be noted that adult Sphex do not feed on locusts, as well as grasshoppers, mantises or stick insects. Like the Olympic gods, they are content with flower nectar.
They attack these insects only to feed their babies. Having noticed the victim, Sphex jumps on it, paralyzes it, and drags it into a hole where it will serve as food for the wasp larvae.
Whew.
Glad I cleared that up for everyone.
(note: if you see a Sphex … and it looks like it is going to jump … well … move – that’s a freebie …)
These Sphex hunters are most active in the beginning of the Australian summer (December), when the locust usually begins to gather in flocks. It is in these flocks where mass mating occurs <some people call this “an orgy”>.
Having conducted a series of experiments, the biologist noted that, while mating locusts accounted for approximately three percent of the total number, they were attacked first.
In contrast, single species rarely suffered from attacks of predators. And males were generally not attacked.
According to his calculations, in nine out of ten cases Sphex preferred to paralyze females, and only one in ten males. The predators are were apparently attracted by the larger size of female locusts.
Yowza.
I will withhold comments on that.
Ok.
This next part is beyond awesome.
At the same time, on several occasions the scientist has observed very curious circumstances occurring with males who were the most “passionate” lovers.
During Sphex attacks they, indulging in amorous pleasures, noticed nothing around them, including the fact that a wasp was dragging their paralyzed partners to its burrow.
“Noticed nothing around them.”
Awesome.
Ok. Here is where it gets important to us.
There is an assumption that once upon a time such danger existed for humans and because of this we inevitably decided to have sex in secluded and well protected places.
Yup. Some anthropologists believe that the search of solitude for love in people was caused by the presence of large predators nearby. Think about it <okay … don’t … I will explain>.
If chimpanzees living in the woods can quickly interrupt copulation and crawl up a tree, in the same environments our ancestor human folk just weren’t as nimble.
And there were no lack of predators. In the good ole days a large crowd of people <or a couple if you struggle envisioning a caveman/woman orgy> could attract lions, hyenas, saber-toothed tigers or other predators.
As a result, our ancestors began to look for more secluded places in order to procreate. This gradually led to the abandonment not only of public sex, but even open display of genitals. As a result, sex in Homo sapiens became the only “personal matter”, which is always done in a safe place – once again not to attract the attention of predators.
Whew.
I understand this post is disappointing to those seeking public sex.
But, in general, great advice.
lighting the way
Apr 24th
“As we let our own light shine, we unconsciously give other people permission to do the same. As we are liberated from our own fear, our presence automatically liberates others.” - Nelson Mandela
So.
I began with this quote and then kind of got pretty passionate about this topic the more I thought about it (that is a warning).
We all have things that matter to us.
A big or small issue that kinda gets the heart pumping a little bit.
The difference between people is that even though we all have something that gets us ‘going’ (heart pumping, anger, heartache, whatever) some remain silent, some speak softly and some speak loudly (or shine a light as it were) on what matters to them.
And while I abhor loud bombastic people … what I do give many of them credit for is the fact that by shining their own light (albeit a frickin’ spotlight) they have unconsciously liberated the rest of us to take whatever wattage our light is and bring it forth against some pretty dark things (if we elect to).
There is no shortage of issues that deserve some light.
- Statistics show that a woman is battered every 15 seconds in the United States by an “intimate.” That’s two million women annually who are battered or abused by their partners. Even more frightening is that every day (yeah … I just typed every day) 4 women lose their lives to violence … an estimated 1/3 of the women who are abused. Oh. And those 4 women are murdered by a husband or a boyfriend (not some stranger).
One in four women who commit suicide is a victim of domestic violence.
And. If that bothers you think about this … there are 3 times more animal shelters (approximately 4300) than battered women shelters (approximately 1500). <and I like pets but this seems kind of insane>
Here is a staggering number.
1 in 4 women will fall victim to Domestic Violence in their lifetime. 1 in 4.
Uhm. How about I make this personal.
That means that 1 of 4 of your female friends/relatives/neighbors is a potential victim.
Or.
- 115+ million kids globally not in school. More important than domestic violence? Yikes. It is all important stuff.
Or.
- In 2009, US child abuse involved an estimated 6 million children.
One in 4 girls will be sexually abused.
One in 6 boys will be sexually abused.
The numbers are stunning.
Stunningly horrible.
Dark numbers.
Or.
- There are 1.4 billion people globally living in poverty – under $1.25 a day.
Or.
- 925 million people are hungry. Every day, almost 16000 children die from hunger-related causes. That’s one child every five seconds. Hunger and malnutrition are the underlying cause of more than half of all child deaths, killing nearly 5.8+ million children each year.
Or.
- Women’s rights (which isn’t just about ‘the glass ceiling’ gentlemen). Women’s rights around the world are an important indicator to understand global well-being. Despite the fact a major global women’s rights treaty was ratified by the majority of the world’s nations a few decades ago … numerous issues still exist in all areas of life, ranging from the cultural, political to the economic. For example, women often work more than men, yet are paid less; gender discrimination affects girls and women throughout their lifetime; and women and girls are often are the ones that suffer the most poverty.
Gender equality furthers the cause of child survival and development for all of society, so the importance of women’s rights and gender equality should not be underestimated.
Or.
- Contaminated water. Bad water is still the primary cause of death in the world today. Each year, it leads to deadly illnesses like cholera, typhoid, malaria, etc., in some 8 million people, including 1.5 million children.
Ok.
I could go on but if you have any hesitation with regard to where you shine your light I suggest you begin here … with the UN The Universal Declaration of Human Rights which begins with these words:
Whereas recognition of the inherent dignity and of the equal and inalienable rights of all members of the human family is the foundation of freedom, justice and peace in the world,
Whereas disregard and contempt for human rights have resulted in barbarous acts which have outraged the conscience of mankind, and the advent of a world in which human beings shall enjoy freedom of speech and belief and freedom from fear and want has been proclaimed as the highest aspiration of the common people,
http://www.un.org/en/documents/udhr/index.shtml
Pick any article & issue from the Declaration and think about it. You don’t have to address it globally … it could be locally or it could be in your community.
Unfortunately … I can guarantee you one thing … while you will be tempted to think “oh, that’s not an issue we have ..” … well … do not fall into that trap.
Every issue resides in your community and in your neighborhood. Things like this are sneaky. And hide in dark corners.
Hence people need to step up and shine a light on these things.
Me?
I use words.
Others use pictures.
There is no one way to shine a light …
I call it enlightened conflict.
Frankly I don’t care what I call it, you call it or what anyone calls it.
Even if you only carry a 15watt bulb. It is light.
In the end maybe think about it this way … by lighting the way you are removing some darkness … the darkness of ignorance … the darkness that maybe stops someone from seeing a way out of their situation … the darkness of hopelessness.
Yep.
Anyone one of us can provide some light if we choose to.
So.
This is one of the few times you will ever hear me recommend speaking out – being vocal. I typically don’t like people on a mission with a cause. I tend to believe if you speak softer more people will actually listen – and believe. But in this case I will err on the side of I don’t care if you whisper .. croak .. or shout.
Speak. Each word is a light shining on a dark spot in humanity (or the shadows that are a reflection of lack of humanity).
Choose to speak out.
Think of it as shining a light on some darkness.
And maybe, if you are really really lucky, it will light the way for someone out of the darkness.
canadian cheese
Apr 21st
Figured I would start off on the right foot …
Knock Knock!
Who’s there?
Cheese!
Cheese who?
Cheese a cute girl!
Yup. This one is gonna be that bad. But I couldn’t resist. Oh. And please note the picture to the right … “say cheese” … ah … cheese humor. The best comedians in the world couldn’t make up stuff like this.
And, yes, I am really writing about Canadian cheese.
Well. Actually I am writing about what someone else wrote about Canadian cheese (just wanted to make sure no one thought I had completely lost it).
Anyway.
I was inspired by … uhmmmmmm … Canadian cheese (this isn’t a joke … this is serious shit in the world of cheese … think Vermont cheese … Wisconsin cheese … France and cheese … and … well … Canadian cheese!)
(yup … no shit).
So.
Let’s take a second about how I got inspired to write about Canadian cheese.
I met the person who wrote the ‘pocket guide to Canadian cheese’ while on a Caribbean island.
(oh … the people you can meet if you are sitting alone at a bar …)
Yup (again).
I was fascinated that someone had come to a Caribbean island to write a book about Canadian cheese. Let alone they had actually elected to write about cheese.
Oh.
But not any cheese.
Canadian cheese.
And the book is a pocket guide (sitting right next to “what to do on the island” and the island maps).
Ok.
All that said. Gosh. Where to begin?
Let’s begin at the beginning.
The foreword is titled “cheese and me.”
It is in this section where you are immediately profiled … because it sets the stage with ‘like elite cheesemongers’ (I would hate to meet a non-elite cheesemonger in a back alley) and a reference to the “cheese renaissance.”
First.
I feel compelled to talk about what it takes to be an elite cheesemonger.
I vaguely remember the Mongols were ‘mongers’ of something. But cheese? Well. Oddly enough (and I am too lazy at the moment to research so this is from memory) I believe the Mongols put dairy products under their saddle to ferment it for future … well … eating.
Geez.
No wonder the Mongols kicked the shit out of everyone. They were eating fermented horse saddle cuisine. Tasty stuff I am sure.
Sadly … I am not sure a Canadian has ever been in the Mongol category of mongers, therefore, they created their own segment of mongers … cheesemongers.
Ah. But, to be on the safe side, they become elite cheesemongers (I believe most of them have mansions in upper Newfoundland).
Anyway.
Being a cheesemonger is tougher than you think in Canada (I actually did some research).
This comes from the Cheese Lover blog:
I am amazed how fantastic Canadian cheese is – both the quality and the way chefs use it. This despite the fact that Canada, like the US, bans the production of young raw milk or unpasteurized cheeses. However many of the most interesting cheeses come from Quebec whose government has recently reversed that position to allow the sale of raw milk cheeses under the age of 60 days.
Cheesemakers in Ontario also labour under the additional handicap of not being free to choose the style of cheese they make. If they want to use cows’ milk (the restriction doesn’t apply to sheep and goats’) they must be able to prove to the province’s Dairy Farmers’ Association that no similar cheese is being made. Popular styles are on allocation so you can’t for example make a cheddar if the cheddar quota is already taken up.
Ok.
Seriously.
First … the cheddar quota is taken up ? … quotas on canadian cheese? Oh my. And Americans think their government is too involved?
Anyway. Second <and most importantly>. Someone writes a blog solely on cheese <must be a monger> … and knows about the cheese quota?
(by the way … I am still slightly stunned, and amused, there is a quota on cheddar cheese … not just any cheese … cheddar cheese … what’s up with that).
Anyway.
Once you have gone through mongerer training (lots of gnashing of teeth and multiple meals of plain limburger sandwiches) you become an official cheese mongerer and probably become qualified to monger cheese and wear foam cheese hats and … well … write a pocket guide on cheese.
Next.
Just in case you may have missed it. The Italian renaissance. The French renaissance. The Canadian cheese renaissance.
Eh?
(Its probably because they have the worlds nicest cheese that you didn’t even notice it)
But, no shit, in this pocket guide you are exposed to the Cheese Renaissance <no dates actually provided> and the Mona Lisa of Canadian cheese. Nope. I did not make that up. Apparently this Mona Lisa has some kind of rind (and possibly the hint of a smile).
Moving on <quickly>.
Next.
The ladder of cheese appreciation.
Yup. They have a ladder.
And not a one rung ladder but rather one of those extendable ladders that can reach the roof of a three story house.
You gotta REALLY appreciate cheese to climb this frickin ladder.
Ok.
Next.
The raw milk question.
Ah.
The big question. Can raw milk be made in canada?
Can a woodchuck chuck wood?
Do moose make milk (I don’t know what a female moose is called … Moosette. Meese? … are any of the royal canadian mounties gay?)
Big important questions.
Next.
Soft washed rind cheese.
Ok.
Would anyone want to eat unwashed cheese? (rind or not).
Personally I am hoping canada has good personal hygiene and clean everything (not just their soft rind cheese). But I am pleased that whenever they wash their rind cheese they do it softly.
Next.
Firm Canadian cheese.<note: I am skipping any inappropriate jokes about firm cheese>
A quote from the pocket guide:
“Substantial dependable and honest – just like Canadians, eh?”
I cannot make this stuff up <I am not that good>.
I am not sure I can add to anything beyond this quote. It kind of says it all.
Ok.
Chapter 8.
Blue cheese.
“Don’t think just because you got your cheese to the curing room that the hard work is over. It’s not, you can still make a poxy whores melt of it. Imagine what would happen if even a single blue mould spore got into the Gold room? Total disaster even at that late stage in the proceedings. Blue mould in the right place is a gift from god but in the wrong place it spreads like cancer. “
Cmon. Priceless prose.
First.
Poxy whores melt?
Dickens only dreamed of writing this about old England let alone blue cheese.
In fact. I vaguely remember a line like this in Oliver (or porgy and bess) neither of which is Dickens … but has to count for something.
Second.
And flipping from a ‘gift from god’ to ‘cancer’ is hyperbole at its best (or worst).
Too much good stuff.
And whoda thunk it would be about canadian cheese? (not me)
So.
Having written about cheese, elite cheesmongers, cheese rind … I thought I would end on the challenges cheese creates for leadership:
“How can you govern a country with two hundred and forty six varieties of cheese?” – Charles De Gaulle
Who would have thought cheese, from anywhere, could create so much discussion & thought.















