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“Even the smallest person can change the course of the future.”
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J.R.R Tolkien
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“And though she be but little, she is fierce.”
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William Shakespeare
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Ok.

This is about business and business leadership.
Leading is a big job. It carries big responsibilities and big burdens. You have to be big enough in some way <skills, charisma, character, smarts, etc.> to stay above the organization and employees. And I say “above” because part of leading is being able to see above the heads of everyone so that you can lead and align and step in when & where appropriate.
Above is not dominance per se just that you maintain a dominant position from which you can most effectively & efficiently lead.
Now.
Here is what any good leader knows … you don’t have to be big to … well … be big.
Heck. You don’t even have to act ‘big.’
In addition.
A good leader can leave the comfort of the ‘throne’, i.e. the trappings of the ‘bigness’ –the natural ‘dominance’ that comes with a title — and still remain above even when stepping down from all those things.
However.
Not everyone is a good leader. And not every leader is particularly good at navigating the natural doubts <am I doing the right thing, am I doing the best thing, am I doing the thing I should be doing, etc.> that come along with being a leader. By the way … any good leader has some doubts on occasion … it keeps them grounded.
Regardless.
What that means is there will inevitably be business people who fear looking small. And they protect their illusions of ‘bigness’, or being bigly, mainly in several ways:
- They diminish everyone they can in the attempt to make others as small as they can so that they look bigger no matter the comparison
- They find a ‘safe space’ in which they place their metaphorical throne and make everyone come to them <this is kind of like the boss who purposefully has their desk built slightly higher and the chairs facing the desk slightly lower to insure they maintain a physical dominant position>
- They avoid, as much as possible, one-on-one interactions with anyone their own size <unless they can control the environment>.
- They ground themselves in platitudes under the guise of “flexibility & adaptability” so they can avoid having to defend anything specific with anyone who could diminish their bigness
Well.
Why I decided to write about this is … uhm … day in and day out Donald J Trump offers us in the business world reminders of ineffective leadership style and the characteristics of insecure leadership.
And the number one
characteristic of insecure leadership is the inability to step down and still stay above.
Insecure leaders are extremely hesitant, if not completely resistant, to leaving their ‘dominant position.’
Let me explain ‘dominant position’ because it can sound bad <and it is mainly meant to express a position of authority>.
A CEO or a president is clearly in a dominant position by title and by responsibility and, in most cases, by some larger skill that got them to where they are. A true ‘dominant position’ <let’s call it “authority”> combines all aspects.
Therefore the person in the dominant position combines substance & style. And this is where insecurity steps in … because if a leader has any true doubts with regard to their ‘dominant position’ – mostly doubts on their substance — they start exhibiting some insecure characteristics.
They will dial up their style aspects to cloak any substance deficiencies and become excruciatingly careful with regard to how they interact with other people.
But the one I thought about today was “stepping down.’
Let me explain.
I heard Donald J say the other day “they should call us to participate.” In other words … they need to come to me <thereby establishing some aspect of subservience and feeds the sense of ‘dominant position.’

This was not a one-off comment.
He does this … every … frickin’ … day.
Trump never “goes to people” nor does he unite by inserting himself into any opposing groups <people who may not agree with him> opening himself up to say “let me be part of what you want.” I cannot envision him ever going to opposition and suggesting he wanted to work with them <they have to come to him>.
His whole leadership style is driven by an insecurity of ‘dominant position’ and he fears stepping down from his position because he fears it will expose the fact he isn’t really above anyone other than in title.
In other words … he fears looking small <or ‘not bigly’>.
And therein lies the larger lesson.
Good leaders don’t become smaller when they step down or go to people rather than make people go to them. They know there are no ‘little people’ but rather only big responsibilities of which everyone has.
Little people are little wherever they go … even if they just sit in the corner office.
Unfortunately for us a little leader knows this … and doesn’t know this.
What I mean by that is they can sense their littleness therefore they go out of their way to stay within whatever cocoon of ‘bigness trappings’ to encourage the belief they have that they are actually big. And, yet, they don’t know this
because they tend to have an oversized view of themselves <every should come to me attitude>.
They see themselves through a fairly warped view of self-relevance … “everyone else becomes more relevant by being around me therefore they become bigger in my bigness.” And that partially outlines their main fear.
Loss of relevance.
Anyone who becomes more relevant than them is a danger. Loss of power, the illusion of or real, is the danger.
What that all means is that an insecure leader more often than not lives in a “you need to come to me, call me or ask me” mentality.
- Foreign dignitaries come to visit him <and he does not visit them>.
- Democrats should call me instead of being obstructionists.
- People need to visit him at the White House <or Mar a Lago>.
- He never works with people or offers to meet them.
He treats everyone as if they should be subservient to him and if they do not meet that desire he is dismissive or even attacks them as ‘obstructionist.’

Let me be clear.
No sane business leader <in this generation> has this attitude.
You cannot.
You cannot because you know many of the people working for you are actually smarter than you and a shitload more just may know something you do not know.
You cannot because oftentimes your peers, who actually report to you, may actually be better than you at some things.
You cannot because you know that good people never want to feel subservient but rather want to feel being a key part of overall success.
Most of those who lead have learned these things not by attempting to learn to be ‘above’ but rather by learning how to lead. And you learn that mostly by getting into ‘the game’ and realizing you can play anywhere at any time. I know that I took an advertising job as a young newly promoted VP in NYC not out of any desire to be the best but because I was curious. I was curious to see if I could “play in the NYC advertising game.” I didn’t need to be the best nor did I desire to dominate … I just wanted to see if I could play.
I can tell you that once you become comfortable with knowing you can play at the biggest level and the lowest level you have a fighting chance to become a leader.
Look.
We all have numerous character flaws and it is a sad truth the majority of us can’t see them. This is even more difficult in a leadership position because you do naturally become more self-aware of any of the things you are good at and yet also not good at … but you also lean heavily on the things you ‘perceive’ got you where you are today.
I say that because insecure leaders are relatively hollow on the self-awareness.
Looking at Trump it is easy to see that he grew up thinking he could get away with whatever he wanted. He lived in a bubble in which young, mentally lazy, rich, amoral white men routinely got away with whatever they wanted. These same characteristics are exhibited in his insecure leadership style.
Here is what I know.

Big leaders are big leaders.
And they are big because wherever they go they retain their bigness. That means they need not ‘stay above’ to be big … they can step down … sit in town halls answering questions from real people as well as sit down with people who didn’t vote for you as well as sit down with peers and discuss ideas … and walk away just as big as they entered the room.
Small leaders cannot do those things, therefore, they do not.
I have now given you a way to judge big leaders from small leaders. Judge away. Every leader should be judged … and judged harshly … because … well … they are leaders and that is their burden.




If I hear one more politician or troll commenter online say “not one vote was affected by Russian efforts during the Presidential campaign” I am gonna tear my hair out.
They call it “forward thinking threat research” … I would have suggested they could have contacted any global advertising agency who could have shown them study after study with regard to how advertising can affect behavior & change attitudes.


We all have blind spots about our self.





not noticed; you really are the president … now.
and you are not drunk and for some reason your wife has not left you. I have given up trying to convince you that words matter <even the ones you make up> so maybe we could have you work on thinking a little less like an idiotic bitter drunk husband and maybe have you think about the fact you really are a President who shouldn’t be bitter about anything and whose wife has not left him <yet>.
and maybe the one dollar bill can help, well, center you a little.



When you are young if you find the wrong person that person can encourage the wrong things even if they mean well.
We solved problems in isolation, deep thought, and through introverted reflection.
in their heart of hearts, that they will remain lost forever.
with media and effectively communicating your message>.
value thru contrast.
Empty space to a listener/questioner/debater is like sugar for ants. Our tendency is almost always to make problems look bigger and successes more successful … it makes us look more heroic. But in our tendency to do so it actually … well … shrinks us. The truth is many of us think our jobs are fairly mundane and when discussing what we do, and have done, publicly we think “who the hell wants to hear this?” and then head down the path to make what we do, or did, look less mundane and more challenging or exciting.
spoke I watched Trump shrink before our eyes and America along with him.

in the Trump white house personnel.
Most people learn this as soon as they move from group management to department management <you cannot fire everyone and rehire only your people> and absolutely learn this lesson as soon as you move into the C-level positions.


Because if they can work together well than there is a better chance that the organization will not do stupid shit even if you make a stupid decision, your crazy will come to life as not-so-crazy pragmatism and knee-jerk spontaneous crazy asshat tweets simply get absorbed into seamless actions which make the tweets look a little less spontaneous, a little less knee jerk, a little less crazy … but still asshat because that is who you are.
does.
knows where they are going and how they will go about doing it.
stew over all the long term type shit … but … we all know the holy grail of business success actually resides in ‘windows of opportunity.’
exactly match up with the standard “this is how you are supposed to do it” management guides. Waiting for opportunities isn’t something that they teach you in ‘how to aggressively beat the crap out of your competition in the industry” school.
your dismay you look around the room and another frickin’ window is open.
It’s all about uncovering the most relevant time to be relevant <and interesting>. Pick the wrong time and you waste $’s because the consumer just doesn’t care. Be interesting at the right time and the brand becomes relevant <and sales increase>.
the other.
Oh.
In my mind it is more about fixing the environment of the flower does not grow.
That doesn’t mean a ‘simple’ stimulus is unable to generate a simple response.
regard to communication.

embarrassing.
Everyone takes personal risks in business.
In business … if you have nothing to offer but used ideas, you are just a used car salesman.