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Life isn’t fair

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“Life isn’t fair.

So, get used to it.”

–

Patrick Star

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I get a little grumpy when someone suggests life isn’t fair.

Why?

Because it suggests that somehow someway Life actually could favor someone if it wanted to.

Or maybe because it suggests that Life chooses winners & losers.

Or maybe because it suggests that we, people, look to Life to fill in the gaps we, the people, cannot seem to fill.

Or maybe because it suggests that we, people, simply do the preparation work to put us in some fantasy position wherein Life taps us on the shoulder and says “you get ‘x’ opportunity because you did the work.”

I will admit I believe Life has a warped sense of humor but in the end it is neither fair nor unfair. It is just a big puzzling confusing mish mash of opportunities, risks, obstacles and choices from which we, people, have to make a myriad of decisions as we navigate it all.

Is it unfair to not have straight paths to whatever we want or desire? No.

Is it unfair to have so many choices with no ‘reviews’ attached to each so we can assess them before forced to “buy one”? No.

Is it unfair to have this mish mash placed in front of us and no ‘how to manual’ in which to get some directions before we begin? No.

The only thing I can say about Life’s fairness is that everyone gets some opportunity presented to them. Bear in mind that this does not mean everyone gets equal opportunity … because not all opportunities are equal from one to another of us … but pretty much everyone gets an opportunity of some form or fashion … in some shape or size.

Look.

I am certainly not suggesting that Life doesn’t suck sometimes.

Nor am I suggesting that it may seem unfair when Life kind of piles on one trouble after another on you at certain moments. But I would suggest those moments, times and periods occur for everyone.

But that is neither fair nor unfair . It just is.

And you deal with it or you don’t. or, maybe differently said, you either deal with it well or you do not deal with it at all.

Life doesn’t actively set out to screw you.

Life doesn’t have some fair lever or another unfair lever it decides to pull as you appear in front of it.

I would suggest Life is simply indifferent to you and that you are the one who activates anything that may be deemed fair or unfair.

Uh oh.

Be aware that you are not alone in activating Life so what may appear as unfair to you was activated by some numbskull several zip codes away <who thought Life was being fair>.

Anyway.

Life isn’t unfair.

All you can do is to be fair to yourself, work hard, be persistent and keep your fingers crossed.

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“Always dream and shoot higher than you know you can do. Do not bother just to be better than your contemporaries or predecessors.

Try to be better than yourself.”

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William Faulkner

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And, in the end, while Life, or the universe itself, is under no obligation to make sense to you or to give you anything … Life will inevitably look like it gave you a pretty fair shake if you always try to be better than yourself.

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February 14, 2016 by Bruce

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