new year, tinkerbell and overcoming fear

tinker bell dust off

“You have to break rules to break free.”

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Tinker Bell

<lyric from Seanan McGuire “Wicked Girls Saving Ourselves”>

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“The best way to predict the future is to create it.”

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Alan Kay

 

So.

 

 

Yesterday I wrote about the year of fear and people.

 

 

Today, writing about 2015, it is about people again.

This time it is the Life version of moving forward, attitudes & behavior and how people should become … well … unfeared for 2015.

 

 

 

And in doing so I use Tinkerbell and Peter Pan.

 

 

 

Yup.

 

Think of it this way <to begin>.

 

 

Peter Pan and Tinkerbell are good friends … albeit volatile best friends.

tinkerbell and peterpan

They fight each other, give each other shit, they make each other angry and jealous … but when all is said and done … they would die for the other.

 

 

They realize they aren’t always perfect, the world isn’t always perfect and while sometimes they drive each other crazy they also realize those very characteristics that make each other crazy are also often the ones that make the other care so much.

 

 

Think of our world this way.

 

 

Peter Pans and Tinker Bells. The real world and real people are a mix. WE drive each other crazy <at times> but it is just those things that make us crazy that make the world interesting and better.

 

 

Yet. Today it is Tinker Bell I focus on for 2015.

 

 

The book version of TinkerBell, one of the most recognized characters in children’s literature, is certainly one of the best feisty imperfect spectacular ‘doer’ type of people you will ever meet.

Flawed but magical.

 

 

Considerably different than the Disney version.

 

Considerably more interesting than the Disney version.

 

 

 

And, more importantly, a reflection of the fact that the world is not a Disney version.

 

 

The TinkerBell truth for us to remember ?

 

 

You have to break rules if you want to break free.

 

obey rules

 

Yup.

 

 

There are so many rules, so many things society tells you to do, and if you want to break free, you have to decide what you want to do – and be.

 

 

If you want to break free of fear you gotta step out and way from some of the rules.

I say this because if society, and the collective thought, is fear … it is kind of up to you break free of it all.

 

 

What I am suggesting is not easy.  Society tells you how to be fearful more than anything else … but you can’t listen to that.

 

Well … at least not if you want to be more than what you are today.

 

 

Fear creates stagnancy.

 

 

Fear creates a cage … or a prison for our minds … and certainly creates a ‘box’ which becomes far too easy to get comfortable in.

 

fear prisonOh.

 

This cage thing.

 

 

I have an article coming up saying that ‘the world loves a cage.’

 

You may not like to hear this but … people tend to like being in this ‘cage.’

 

 

 

The problem is that in 2014 many of us saw this cage as ‘protection against the outside world’ and not someplace where we were trapped.

 

 

As with everything … it is about perspective.

 

We trapped ourselves in 2014. Trapped ourselves in fear.

 

 

And to become ‘untrapped’ we have to think like TinkerBell.

 

 

She wasn’t always nice.

 

She was feisty.

 

She was willing to break rules.

 

And she had an imagination.

 

tinker bell harumph

 

 

Anyway.

 

 

Personally … I don’t want to die in a cage.

 

Any cage … a cage made by me or by someone else.

 

 

I don’t care.

 

I just don’t want to die in a cage.

 

 

 

I tend to believe most of us don’t.

 

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There’s a place they can go if they’re tired of chains,

And our roads may be golden, or broken, or lost,

But we’ll walk on them willingly, knowing the cost –

We won’t take our place on the shelves.

It’s better to fly and it’s better to die

Say the wicked girls saving ourselves.”

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“Wicked Girls Saving Ourselves”

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2015 is not about systems, or society, or government, or politicians … or even conflict & turmoil.

 

2015 is about the people. Actually, to be definitive, it is about the “I” – the individual making a decision & a choice.

 

 

Frankly.

2015 is about saving ourselves.

 

 

Us doing it for us.

 

Us being … well … Tinker Bells.

 

 

Now.

 

The homophobic among us will scoff and seek a large manly symbolic character and try to embrace this more manly idea of breaking the shackles of fear.

 

 

They don’t understand the point.

 

 

 

It’s not about gender.

 

And it certainly isn’t about physical strength or ‘the power of revolution.’

 

 

 

It’s about being able to fly.

 

wings to fly

 

It’s about finding and embracing the magic in Life.

 

 

It’s about recognizing the world has dark places … but still be willing to venture out

 

 

It’s about being nimble where evil <or ‘the bad’> tends to win thru stolid unmoving sturdiness.

 

 

 

It’s about not always being nice … but being true of heart.

 

 

It’s about being smart not strong.

 

 

It’s about breaking some rules in order to be free.

 

It’s about remembering what ‘can be’ in a reality doing whatever it can possibly do to make us forget.

 

 

 

Far too many of us see a dark world and instead of imagining what could be simply hold on to something in the past because it <a> seems better and <b> seems safer <as known>.

 

 

 

 

We do not seek any magic we simply seek what we know.

 

 

In and of itself that seems like a good idea but as everyone is doing it … and as everyone decides to hold on to their ‘own thing’ we simply stay in our own little NeverLand <Peter Pan’s author made Neverlands these places that are found in the minds of children and each is “always more or less an island” not the same from one child to the next>.

 

 

I say that because … well … if we go backwards and hold on to things we become islands.

 

 

Avoiding adventure <except in our own mind> and not sharing adventure.

 

 

 

Even worse?

 

We avoid the rest of the world, the real world, and live in our own little ‘own thing.’

 

 

 

Anyway.

 

 

I think more of us need to seek our inner Tinker Bell in 2015. And in doing so … we have a chance to refind the magic in Life and break free of fear and guide ourselves to new and better adventures.

 

 

Aw.

 

 

This may sound silly.

 

 

This may sound Disneyesque <mostly if you haven’t actually read Peter Pan and only know the Disney Tinker Bell>.

 

 

But do not disregard the thought.

 

 

 

Tinker Bell sought something better even when faced with reality. She desired to create the future. She guided from adventure to adventure.

 

 

She may not have liked all her companions but she never desired less for them at the expense of something more for the ones who mattered most to her.tinker faith pixie dust trust

 

 

And she had pixie dust.

 

 

What more could anyone strive for in 2015?

 

 

Tap into your inner Tinker Bell and break free of any fear holding you back.

 

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And just a reminder … do not count on Jiminy Cricket for help in 2015.
I wrote this silly New Year’s thought in 2009:

< http://brucemctague.com/warning-new-years-wishes-dependent-upon-jiminy-cricket-are-in-danger >

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