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“The one who wishes to wear the crown … must bear its weight …”

 

 

Kim Tan

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This quote <I believe> comes from a Korean TV show.

 

When I saw it … I paused … thought … and then pasted it into the beginning of a thought piece.

 

Not all of us actually seek a crown in a true leadership type way.

 

curiosity leader burdenBut.

 

We all wish for something more than what we have. It is kind of inherent into who and what we are as people. Its not that we are perpetually dissatisfied with where we are and what we have … it’s just that there is an inner urge to discover our best version of yourself <or at least a better version than who you are at the moment>.

 

Now.

 

Part of that best version of ourselves encompasses how we pursue “more” and how we assume the responsibility, or burden, associated with the “more” <whatever it is> in our lives.

And to discover more … well … you gotta push out on current and existing limitations. In other words … you gotta look around for a new crown to wear.

 

While I assume the quote I used most likely was in reference to a person in charge will have to take responsibility for everything and that leadership comes with all the responsibilities associated with leading all the people <and it is a heavy burden of responsibility> … I would suggests that crowns are crowns and the burden is always a weight.

 

Once you assume a crown … well … assume that any little thing that goes wrong is your fault. You can have a family behind you, a team behind you, a population behind you … when the shit hits the fan … everyone looks to the one with the crown. Crowns mean you are responsible not just for the direction of efforts, and the efforts themselves … but also the outcomes, good and bad, or any and all efforts.

 

And while many could look at what I just wrote and say “oh, that is personal responsibility” <taking ownership of you actions & words> I would argue that there is absolutely personal responsibility … and then there is crown responsibility.

 

Look.

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There are many different types of crown in Life.

Shit.

Crowns come in all sizes and shapes.

 

Power, leadership, fame, family, wealth, relationships, love … the list is pretty endless … once you pick one crown to wear … you must be ready for its consequences.

 

I believe it was Woody Allen who said that 80% of success in life is showing up. I would suggest the other 20% of success is how well you bear the actual burden of the crowns you wear.   And, I would note, part of that burden is how well you actually push opportunity to others now that you have that crown. I say  that because crown wearing is not just about problem solving or ‘leading’ … or even “I” type things… it actually contains some “what am I going to do for you” type aspects.

 

Yeah.

 

Sure.

 

Leadership is one crown. And whether the crown wearer actually fulfills the responsibility well or not … I tend to believe anyone seeking to wear the leadership crown understands that there is a burden that comes along with it … and almost all the different aspects of that burden that come along with it.

 

Responsibility and leadership is a well-recognized burden.

 

But all the other crowns?

 

All the other crowns are a little sneakier. Sometimes I think we forget some of the choices we make represent the fact that someone has just placed a crown upon our head.

 

Shit.

 

invisible crown wear bearTo be honest.

 

Sometimes I think we actually don’t like to think of some of these choices as a “putting on a crown’ type choice.

What I mean by that is we purposefully ignore the crown.

 

I believe we mostly do that because it is nice to think of a choice as a choice … and isolate whatever burden or responsibility we feel we should assume to that moment in time and that choice. Crowns mean … well … ongoing burden.

 

I tend to believe more of us, even the ones who really do not go seeking crowns, would think of some choices as moments in which a crown is placed upon us.

Maybe then we would view some choices a little differently … maybe add a little more gravitas to a choice … and certainly add a little more truth to the reality of our lives.

 

And maybe that is why wearing a crown can be a burden. You are accepting some truth. And truth, in and of itself, is a burden.

 

Anyway.

 

We all wear crowns.

 

And, in some way and in some situations, you actually wish to wear that particular crown. It would probably do more of us some good to admit this as truth, accept the misery it will most likely place upon you in additional responsibility … and understand that this understanding will ultimately set you free to rule that particular aspect of your Life just a little bit better than before.

 

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James A. Garfield:

 

“The truth will set you free, but first it will make you miserable.”

 

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